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Advice on feeling good again

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user264848 · 16/07/2023 21:25

I'm mid thirties, 2 young DC, 2stone over weight, have an awful diet, anxiety and have a lot less spare cash than I did in my twenties. I just want to start feeling better about myself. I'm currently having some counselling due to a couple of sad events I have had to deal with recently. She recommended I go on anti depressants for my anxiety. So that's probably the first thing on my list. Other than that what has made you start to feel/look/ be better?

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cactusjane · 16/07/2023 21:35

Following as I'm in the same boat. Also have about 2 stone to lose, very much stuck in a rut with work/daily life, and I have quite bad anxiety too.

I would say take baby steps. Try and be organised. Plan healthy meals and try to do a bit of exercise where you can - a class is great if you can get to it, if not YouTube has good home workouts. Having said that, I never manage to stick to them so I'm not the best person to give advice 😂

FatherJoseFernandez · 16/07/2023 21:39

My go to is putting selection of my favourite music on and going for a walk by myself for at least 30 minutes to chill out

Maddy70 · 16/07/2023 21:59

I saw this on another post and I think it's really helpful

Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Poundland lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

Put on your favorite underwear. Cute black lacy panties? Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with pink love hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music. Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food. Don’t just grab a Kit Kat bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s beans on toast. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

* At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

* In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

Find something to be grateful for!

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