Sounds obvious but I think some of us take longer to reach this liberation due to childhood/personality etc
It suddenly struck me that I was full of pent up rage and this was because I spend a lot of time, thinking and effort trying to please people
I run a small business and my God are people selfish, needy and unthinking. Okay I'm providing a service but I bend over backwards and a lot of it is unnecessary and unrecognised
I'm done
Also just generally in life. Those friends that take, take, take I'm backing off. Everyone seems to please themselves these days so apart from my DH, kids and that small circle who genuinely care I'll be not giving a second thought to beyond what is socially necessary
I feel liberated I really do