OP, you are comparing the pay of the top performers at each of the sectors.
Do you have superstar quality? It is not just hard work (but there will be lots of it and a given) but luck, being in the right place at the right time and personal qualities like ambition, likeability, raw intelligence and a certain X factor, call it 'presence', 'fit, or 'looking the part', all of which does not tend to work in favour of women in cut throat male dominated industries.
I agree with LittleBT that the most important thing right now is to work hard, be the best you can and grab as many opportunities as you can. The idea is also to find out what type of job is the best and natural fit for you. The competition is tough so you want to shine in an area which you can excel, not in an area where others will naturally have an advantage. Otherwise you will burn out.
For example, if you dislike presentations, pitches, sales and schmoozing, better not to go for a front office role or a role that requires you to build a blackbook. Instead a technical role in cybersecurity or back office tech may suit you better.
Personally, from the way you write, you are not an obvious candidate for attention to detail or research skills, so don't go for jobs that require this.