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What’s ex doing

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Nottrag · 16/07/2023 12:34

Broke up 3-4 weeks ago. He said there was a loss of connection, he wanted space and time to figure things out etc. Then I found him on a dating app. That was it for me.

A week later I had to follow up and remind him to pay his half of the holiday. The next day I thanked him for paying and wished him well.

He left my message unread and didn’t reply. Until now. Which is the day we would have flown on our holiday. He simply replied ‘thank you. Wish you all good things too. You were so lovely to me.’

My guy friend thinks hes chosen this day to msg me back because it’s manipulation. My other guy friend thinks it’s just a nice msg he’s sending as he’s probably remembered it was our holiday day.

I couldn’t give a F about this guy. I hate how he treated me. I have moved on.

But I’m curious - do you think it’s an innocent msg or manipulation?

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SpringIntoChaos · 16/07/2023 12:38

Stop giving it headspace!

Butterfly44 · 16/07/2023 12:40

He's moved on. No manipulation in the thank you message.

wineschmine · 16/07/2023 12:42

I don't think it matters, but no, I don't really see any manipulation.

He's moved on, uou should do the same .

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MzHz · 16/07/2023 12:42

I sincerely hope you’ve still gone on this holiday @Nottrag ?

Whataretheodds · 16/07/2023 12:44

I'm wondering how his message got through - didn't you block him?

Cadburyscreamegg · 16/07/2023 12:45

Maybe he thought u might Invite him to still come on the holiday if you're still going.

Nottrag · 16/07/2023 13:21

He had three weeks to msg me. Why now. On the day we were due to fly. He left me in the lurch and out of pocket overall.

why on Earth does he think I want to hear from him today and three weeks later.

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Nottrag · 16/07/2023 13:21

I deleted his number and chat before I could block him. I can do it now.

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empatheticpretzel · 16/07/2023 13:27

You're over thinking it. Even if it is manipulation he's got nothing to do with your life now. Don't contact him again if you must

ILoveYourFace · 16/07/2023 13:58

You obviously do give a fuck to be thinking about him and posting this on here. You didn’t have to thank him or wish him well. You seem to be trying to strike up a chat with him. Get on with other things and he’ll soon be a distant memory.

pimplesquisher · 16/07/2023 14:02

Don't waste time thinking about it.

Nottrag · 16/07/2023 15:18

It’s annoyed me that he messaged three weeks later and on this day. It’s clearly deliberate.

Otherwise he is a distant memory, despite what some posters are suggesting.

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QuietDragon · 16/07/2023 16:20

I'm not if it's deliberate or not. He probably just saw the date and it reminded him of you, looked at your message thread and decided to reply.

I doubt he's been sitting at home, plotting and planning to wait until today to text you.

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