Do you ever wonder if you're a Mumsnet Mother in Law?

[CurlewKate]

Ds is 22. He's away for the weekend with his girlfriend to celebrate their 2 year anniversary. He sent me some pictures this morning of them having breakfast in the sunshine outside their cottage. And last night he sent me a picture of him barbecuing because he's never done it before. I hearted last night's picture and asked what they were planning to do today to this morning's. If his girlfriend was a mumsnetter would this level of contact make you cross?

Nope - he's choosing to send you photos and you're replying to them, doesn't seem like an overly high level of contact that would be anything other than normal?

Obviously if there's a backstory of you demanding a photo a day to see what he's up to that's a different story 😂

My daughter and her boyfriend are at a similar stage - both 23 and together for 2.5 years. He is very close to his parents and I'm glad to say that my daughter gets on very well with them too.

She wouldn't bat an eyelid by the sort of contact you have described. Similarly he wouldn't bat an eyelid if she contacted us.

Sounds perfectly normal to me.

Sounds fine to me as well. 🙂

My kids are a bit young yet, but I've asked a friend and fellow munsnetter to let me know if I ever become one in future 😂

Why are toy worried about a normal level of interest? The mumsnet MIL would be calling the girlfriend to remind her that her sone likes a particular brand of ketchup on his burgers and that its his nephews birthday tomorrow so she needs to sort a present.

If anything, she'd be annoyed with him communicating with others when they're supposed to be away together, rather than annoyed at you for responding to a picture he'd sent to you.

But that might depend on whether she wants them both to be 100% fully present in the moment, or she's been sharing photos with her friends and family and chatting with them too.

That's fine :)
I'm MIL to two now and quite often my Son in Law will whatsapp me with links to good podcasts or music I might like, and I send him pics of his toddler (whom I look after) if we've been doing something particularly fun that day.
My daughter in Law is the same.. they live on the other side of the world now but yesterday she sent me a video of DS1 doing a gig, because she knows how much I miss hearing him sing.

We don't continually message or hassle each other but my in law children are family :)
I HAD a DIL who hated any contact between me and my daughter. And didn't want to come (or let my DD1) to any family events (I'm talking Christmas, family weddings so infrequent) They are now divorcing as she was controlling and emotionally abusive, and unfaithful to boot. My DD says if she ever considers another serious relationship, they have to like us all (we are not an in-your-face family at all ..just normal!)