Positives and negatives about remaining single before 40

[PrincessIntrovert]

Positives:

No cheating dramas and all the other bullshit scenarios women on here seem to put up with day in day out. Baffles me. I mean, just fuck him off?

My own financial system

My home is exactly the way I want it with my favourite colours, themes and items

Not being pestered for sex I only give into out of obligation

I can be selfish with my own time and I don't have to put up with overbearing in laws and bratty kids

I don't have to compromise for him

There's no worry about anyone leaving me for someone else

I save a fortune on razor blades and underwear 😬

Negatives:

I quite miss holding hands

No emotional support or reassurance

The social pity and people asking if I've met anyone "yet"

I really can't think of anything else… feel free to add?

Anyone?

People aren’t going to post threads on mumsnet saying “my husband is nice” “my husband isn’t cheating on me”, threads of this site are only going to show you the extremes. Just do what makes you happy.

a few positives, single for along time here!

• choose your own home decor
• chuck stuff out as and when you want to!
• time to think, study, be creative or do hobbies
• peace and quiet
• become self sufficient - learn everything like DIY, finance management, cooking, decide what to buy or not to buy or when to buy it, cope when things go wrong because you have to - no-one to bail you out (some friends in couples go to pieces when they have to deal with stuff on their own)
• autonomy of decision making and general life direction
• look forward to meeting someone - the possibility is always in the air - rather than being bogged down with the same person and their annoying habits (I realise not everyone will want to meet someone)
• grow into your own person, not defined by a partner or someone else, you can't help but grow and be more YOU than ever
• if you have kids, as a lone parent, making all the decisions yourself can be tough but also comes with a lot of freedom\\
• looking at others' relationships makes you realise the grass isn't always greener (seeing others stuck in a rut or abusive behaviours or taking each other for granted etc)
• I think if I ever get into a relationship it will be more cherished because I've really grown into myself and know myself better

I would like a partner (single parent) but there are some definite benefits!