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Ex in a movie

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ThatFraggle · 14/07/2023 23:12

Friday night Netflix. I saw him on screen and I just filled up with jealousy.

We were together just after school for a little while, fizzled out because of distance. Now I've got a shitty life in Bumblebury under Horseradish on Sea, and he's in Hollywood. Not a main character A lister, but a main baddie with lines and everything.

I had to stop watching.

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thirtyfivethirtyeight · 14/07/2023 23:13

Is he unattached? Find his agent and drop him a note. :)

Wristfolds · 14/07/2023 23:16

Ah be kind to yourself OP- most people would feel a flicker of envy or something. If you’re unhappy with bits of your life then think about what you could change for you- but don’t envy him too much, it’s a notoriously insecure and competitive sector and what you see as his ‘public’ front will gloss over a lot of bother (someone I know divorced and her ex became an influencer for his hobby- his insta looks divine but he’s been evicted twice and was nearly laid off from his wage job which didn’t feature!)

BillyNoM8s · 14/07/2023 23:30

I'd feel the same. I'm never happy for other people Grin

He's definitely a twat.

Unless, as above, you're both unattached and you can rekindle your long lost love and go and live your new Hollywood life?

AdoraBell · 14/07/2023 23:35

Either contact the agent or just stop watching.

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ThatFraggle · 14/07/2023 23:36

I'm in a "can't afford to leave" marriage.

I wouldn't be to afford to fly to Hollywood anyway, even if I was open to cheating, which I'm not.

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BillyNoM8s · 15/07/2023 00:11

ThatFraggle · 14/07/2023 23:36

I'm in a "can't afford to leave" marriage.

I wouldn't be to afford to fly to Hollywood anyway, even if I was open to cheating, which I'm not.

Bide your time until he becomes more successful, then slide into his DMs Grin

Sounds like you might not be happy at home, which is what's really fuelling this though. Anything you can do about that?

Deathbyfluffy · 15/07/2023 00:15

thirtyfivethirtyeight · 14/07/2023 23:13

Is he unattached? Find his agent and drop him a note. :)

I think it’d be fairly obvious that’s some top tier gold digging!

Doyoumind · 15/07/2023 00:18

Bumblebury under Horseradish on Sea sounds much more appealing to me than Hollywood, if that helps.

FridaRose · 15/07/2023 00:19

'I'd feel the same. I'm never happy for other people Grin'

That made me laugh Grin. It's natural for a lot of us to feel jealous when others are doing better than us. I noticed when there's a bad photo of a celebrity on a beach with cellulite, some women comment 'makes me feel better now'.

My ex is dating a Grammy winner - but he's a nice guy and I've done well in my marriage so thankfully don't feel jealous. But I totally get it OP

Allmyghosts · 15/07/2023 00:21

Get a grip

Windercar · 15/07/2023 00:22

You made your choices, he made his

FridaRose · 15/07/2023 00:22

Also he can't really get it up in bed so I didn't want him!

Although maybe that was only the case with me Grin

Marchintospring · 15/07/2023 00:29

Yeah that’s annoying.

But …if you were together you’d have to live with everyone thinking the sun shines out of his arse whilst you’d have to put up with the irritations of him at home. And you’d have to be stunning all the time otherwise people would be constantly wondering why he was with you. And you’d have to find a cool job or play second fiddle to his.
And he’d probably split up anyway because it’s notoriously difficult to stay married in Hollywood.

truelips · 15/07/2023 01:46

Marchintospring · 15/07/2023 00:29

Yeah that’s annoying.

But …if you were together you’d have to live with everyone thinking the sun shines out of his arse whilst you’d have to put up with the irritations of him at home. And you’d have to be stunning all the time otherwise people would be constantly wondering why he was with you. And you’d have to find a cool job or play second fiddle to his.
And he’d probably split up anyway because it’s notoriously difficult to stay married in Hollywood.

Great answer!

LordSalem · 15/07/2023 01:54

You made your life what it is and so did he. You're not required to watch his form of success play out. Continue to switch off.
It might sting but it is what it is. He might crash down epically in a few years. You might too. You can't envy someone else for living without you.

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ThatFraggle · 15/07/2023 08:16

Thanks for all the perspectives.

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