Holiday is a bloody disaster!

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We booked a three night getaway for dh's birthday with the kids and just been awful. Everyone in a funk, at least one child in a mood/tired/sick at any one time and second night in DH is currently sleeping on the bottom bunk in kids room because ds is worried it'll fall on him in the night after we came home early from the entertainment as they both exhausted from today, but once home one decided he wanted to stay (one of us would have stayed with if they'd let us know!). It's a center parcs type place and feel so stupid for paying so much to us and it's just not been at all what we were expecting, not that I can really put my finger on what's up, we love center parcs so should have been a good fit.
Argh just wanted a moan. Well over a grand wasted. And everyone forgot something and somehow that's my fault. Just want to go home. Anyone any words of encouragement not to just pack them all up first thing and leave?

It's the middle of the Summer holidays up here in Scotland so noone is expecting a quiet time at an activity destination aimed at families with kids 😉

New day today, have one more full day and night so will pull up the big girl pants, thanks for all the viewpoints and encouragement. Just a few points, dh is fab and by no means have a problem there he swapped with dt1 and sacrificed his own sleep! Dt2 has a hidden disability which tires him more easily so probably just overshot the day and he felt off from that.

Appreciate the replies, sometimes just need a big moan and then get back to it with a fresh head!

First day back after Christmas this year and I was the only one with kids who was in. People kept asking if I'd had a nice "break" only to be met with deranged laughter!

Hope you guys are on better form today too! Have a lovely time, mine used to love Haven.

It's so annoying when a holiday doesn't live up to expectation.
It sounds like your DC are of an age where you need separate bedrooms.
I had a disappointing trip to Italy with just DH recently (DS17 at home) various factors conspired to make it not that enjoyable. I tried to objectively work out what they were so I could avoid them for future breaks, it's all you can really do.

Sorry for previous message, I thought you were all in one room, but you're not.

I thought the kids would be younger from your OP, tbh at that age I think it sounds like they've got a bit of a bad attitude and need to buck up!

Sun is out this morning, everyone has been up since about 6am so loading up on breakfast, filling a bag and heading to the beach (and arcades, tat shops and chippy).

As a child we always did self catering. I can remember the wet weather as fun. We used to have bus rovers and remember getting the first bus anywhere to eat our sandwiches on we thought it was fun. Then when my brother got his first vehicle an ex telecom van and all piling in the back on cushions no seatbelts then. I bet people remember wet holidays when things go wrong and laugh about them after.

At 9 years old I would definitely have had the 'buck your attitude up' conversation with my kids!
A grand is a lot to spend on a few days away, I don't think there is anything wrong with letting them know they are lucky and should be making the most of it.
I was expecting you to say the kids were under 5 to be honest.

@Createwhatusername sorry it’s not working out. Hope you all wake up a bit brighter today.

We’re not on holiday but we’re all in a funk too. Actually, most people I have spoken to this week seem to be in a funk. I wonder if it’s just that time of year where everyone’s knackered and had enough of work and school.

I was a single parent for years, holidays with my old two were fab.

Now, with dp and other kids they're crap. It's definitely the addition of dp that ruins them. He expects a holiday as well so will sit on his ass.

remember a holiday years ago and looking back now my mum deserved all the sympathy in the world! Recently lost her dad so she took her mum away with us paid extra for a flat in W-S-M mum and dad sleeping in lounge gran in one bedroom me about 8 years old and sister 13 years sharing a room which was an instant kick off. it rained all week apart from one morning when dad took us to the park over the road that was fun being cooped up in that flat all week!

Are you already on summer holiday or taken the children out early? No judgement but I find DD is exhausted by the end of term and always gets ill the first week as her body relaxes, holidays before she's had a week or so to relax would be completely miserable for all involved. Also 3 days also isn't long in that the first day of travel is always stressful until everyone's settled, DD has ASD so always needs a low demand travel day either side where we do nothing else and get used to the accomadation. Young children often need the same when their routine is disrupted even for nice things.

With the bunk bed issue can you take the mattresses off the beds so the children can sleep on them on the floor if they have issues being in the bunk? They'll probably find that exciting.

I would go swimming this am if it's an option, reset everyone, have a relaxed afternoon with some treat food and a rest back at the accommodation and then go back out in the pm. Don't try to cram too much in, decrease your expectations.

That’s holidays with kids for you! Everyone in close quarters, so things that go wrong seem worse, you just want your own bed etc.
We have just been away w late teen/young adult DC for a week - it was nice but a week was plenty even though not dealing w ‘children’ there’s always ‘something’ and everyone likes doing different things so we did split up on the last day. Health issues precluded a few things too.

We're week 3 into the summer holidays @Singleandproud 😁 and that's a great idea about the mattress thank you will try that tonight.

Oh @Beargrumps22 what a wee star she is ♥️

For the few comments about the 9yo twins... Siblings bicker when they're tired and cranky, it's nothing unusual and doesn't mean they have bad attitudes. And 9 is still young. They're generally very appreciative of new experiences and we usually have an amazing time at these type of holidays. They're also having a hard time with t2s potentially life limiting disability which they both struggle with and maybe we were a little ambitious with this one. Just want to show them they can do anything. And sometimes they are just dicks. I think that's par of the course with kids, even the 9yo's 😁 So enough about their attitudes, very proud of the way they both are handling really shitty stuff they shouldn't have to.

Today was much better too so far, appreciate the replies! It really does seem worse when you're away and there's this pressure for things to go right.

Hang on in there .
Did a similar thing a few weeks ago and this was 2 adults in there 50s !
We were moaning about how bad it was and how we only had ourselves to blame /why did we come here /waste of money etc etc etc ...
Wanted to turn and come home on the first night ,but we had shared a bottle of wine as we moaned so couldn't drive.
Threw ourselves into it the next day and loved it so much we got 2 more breaks booked at the same place .

What the feck is a funk ???

Not everyone is lucky enough to have GP that are remotely interested in doing that.
We had one night together in 17 years when they were at scout camp.

A fairly common word for a mood

"What the feck is a funk ???"

Hate the word. It seems to be everywhere though.