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Party invites

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Greenel82 · 14/07/2023 09:15

DS wanted a football party for his birthday this year so I booked one. He gave out the invitations yesterday (13 out of a class of 30) I told him to invite only the children who like/play football at school as if they didn’t then they would probably be bored. This is literally the only reason I didn’t invite the full class as I don’t want bored children at the party for their sake. A girl came over at pick up yesterday and asked why she wasn’t invited. I told her I wasn’t sure if she liked football, but she told me she did so last night I wrote her an invitation and gave it her in the playground this morning. When I passed over the invitation, another girl came over and asked why she wasn’t invited. I told her it was a football party but she is welcome to come. Her dad said “aw you can’t just invite one girl” he said this in front of all the parents and I felt awful. Then another parent said to him “(child’s name didn’t get an invite either) He actually did so I’ll speak to her at pick up. This will be DS first party so I wasn’t sure if people invite the whole class. If it were at a play centre or something I probably would have invited the whole class but with it being football I know not all of the children would be interested. I feel embarrassed now!

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KingTriton · 14/07/2023 09:25

How old are the children? Do you pay more if you invite 30 kids rather than 15?

The kid who asked for an invite was pretty brazen but sadly you've set a precedent now!

My child has been invited to football parties and I've declined as he hates football so I'm sure that would probably be the case for you had you invited the whole class. However, it's your decision as to who to invite!

Greenel82 · 14/07/2023 09:28

@KingTriton They are year 2 so 6/7. It was £75 for up to 25 children. I have invited 13 out his class, well 14 now and his football team mates.

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KingTriton · 14/07/2023 09:39

So do you now have 25 children coming? If so then the other parents and their offspring will just have to get over it.

If anyone else has the cheek to ask you I would say it's limited numbers, I can't invite any more!

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ElectricToothbrush · 14/07/2023 10:18

If you've invited 25 DC already then if anyone else asks just say sorry, you have limited numbers. Tbh can't believe parents would be so rude/ ignorant as to question and discuss out loud who you have and haven't invited - very odd behaviour! It's completely fine to only invite who you want, not the whole class, to a party.

Greenel82 · 14/07/2023 10:30

Oh yes just realised it will be 25 now! That’s it then🤷🏻‍♀️

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Positive41 · 14/07/2023 11:21

Faux pas to hand out invites in the playground. You should send invites by messaging the parents directly or ask the teacher to put in the bookbags discreetly. Other kids pick up when they haven't been invited and some will be upset at this age.

Greenel82 · 14/07/2023 16:29

@Positive41 I only gave one out in the playground this morning to the girl. I just sent DS in with them yesterday and told the teacher he had invites in his bag. DS told me he handed them out in the classroom but I also thought the teacher may just put them in bags/trays. He’s never had a party before so I wasn’t sure how they were given out. I don’t have any parents contact details apart from 2 who I messaged instead and there isn’t a WhatsApp group etc

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TeenDivided · 14/07/2023 16:35

I kind of feel it should have been asking his core friends and let them decline if they didn't fancy the party.

ElaineEliLitty · 14/07/2023 21:02

DD (7) has been asking about doing something for her birthday this year so have said maybe something small, around 10ish friends. One of her best friends siblings has terrorised my eldest DD (9) this school year and the mum (who works at the school) screamed at me and DD in the playground to the point the teacher put in a complaint about her behaviour. We have had it confirmed my DD is not to blame and this kid is not nice, she’s not the only person he has done this to.

I don’t want to say youngest can’t invite this friend as have taken the stance that it’s not their argument but honestly don’t want the parent to bring the sibling and think I’d struggle with the parent staying to be honest.

Do I just invite and hope they don’t come? It’s the siblings birthday around same time so they might refuse anyway. I can possibly suck it up to cope with the parent as I’ll be busy sorting the kids, but I don’t want the sibling there ruining it for others.

is there a way round this? Say no siblings on invite?

drpet49 · 14/07/2023 21:06

ElaineEliLitty · 14/07/2023 21:02

DD (7) has been asking about doing something for her birthday this year so have said maybe something small, around 10ish friends. One of her best friends siblings has terrorised my eldest DD (9) this school year and the mum (who works at the school) screamed at me and DD in the playground to the point the teacher put in a complaint about her behaviour. We have had it confirmed my DD is not to blame and this kid is not nice, she’s not the only person he has done this to.

I don’t want to say youngest can’t invite this friend as have taken the stance that it’s not their argument but honestly don’t want the parent to bring the sibling and think I’d struggle with the parent staying to be honest.

Do I just invite and hope they don’t come? It’s the siblings birthday around same time so they might refuse anyway. I can possibly suck it up to cope with the parent as I’ll be busy sorting the kids, but I don’t want the sibling there ruining it for others.

is there a way round this? Say no siblings on invite?

Er yes you say no siblings! No one invites siblings anyway.

ElaineEliLitty · 14/07/2023 21:08

Sorry think I’ve added to someone else’s chat trail - I’m new to this!! Apologies x

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