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Just friends or not...?

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RebelR · 11/07/2023 13:26

I've known him for years and we have definitely always been just friends. Both in other relationships, never any hint of anything. Not particularly close friends, just part of the same circles.

Since we both became single, we've spent quite a bit of time together, mostly out of convenience - we're the ones most likely to be free when you need someone to go somewhere with.

I'm actually very happy currently. I have no intention of marrying or living with someone again, am enjoying the single life, not looking for a serious partner. That said, I also quite like the coupley feeling I sometimes get with this man, some flirting and touching after a drink but mostly we're both ignoring that and just being friendly.

I think we need a "chat". Both of us probably need to know what this is.

I'm fine either way tbh. If we're friends we'll carry on as we are, but if there's something else there, let's relax and have a bit of fun finding out what it is.

But if there was something, wouldn't it feel more important to me than that?

Also how to broach it, if at all?

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Summer2424 · 11/07/2023 14:14

Hi @RebelR i think go with the flow for a bit longer and if still nothing is happening then have a chat.
Hope things workout for the best xx

A303 · 11/07/2023 14:24

It’s not as if he’s a very close friend and if you goes 🍐 shaped you would have something to lose. Or would you?

RebelR · 11/07/2023 14:41

A303 · 11/07/2023 14:24

It’s not as if he’s a very close friend and if you goes 🍐 shaped you would have something to lose. Or would you?

Interesting question. When I was married he was someone who was sometimes at the same events as me, so no I wouldn't have missed him particularly.

More recently he and other mutual friends have become an integral part of my social life, so if things got so terrible we couldn't socialise together, it would be quite a loss, yes.

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