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Not everyone misses it surely?

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MaxwellCat · 10/07/2023 00:16

My sons going off to year 7 soon I still have younger children in school so will still be doing the school run but I am SO looking forward to the day I never have to do it ever again I actually hate it (I know some people love it) but I genuinely hate it. People often insist I will miss it when I no longer have to do it, I just can't see myself missing it I actually dread it most of the time (not the closest school and requires a bus to get there which is always packed and just generally all the rushing around to get kids out of the house on time) does everyone miss it when it's over? I'm looking forward to the day its over I have 4 children so been doing it a long time and I'm a lone parent so it's only ever been down to me to do it and I honestly can't wait till I dont have to.

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Orban · 10/07/2023 00:18

Don't miss it at all in terms of logistics and hassle.

It is a bit weird at secondary though. You're kind of at one remove.

Tighginn · 10/07/2023 00:21

Miss the school gate mafia...

CluelessHamster · 10/07/2023 00:28

God no!

Hated it and was glad when it stopped!

I do miss them all being that age though and the cosy, safe feeling of having them all home of an evening.

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 10/07/2023 00:34

The "you'll miss it when it's gone" nonsense always irritated me. No, I don't miss making school lunches (that was my big hate). No, I don't miss the mess in the house.

I do miss my dc (they are all adults now) but I definitely don't miss all the shite that comes with parenting school age kids.

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MaxwellCat · 10/07/2023 00:37

Yes I get told I Will miss them when they grow up but I'm honestly looking forward to the day they are more independent I may miss it a bit but I will never miss the school run 🤣

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DyslexicPoster · 10/07/2023 00:39

I'm only doing the school run for my youngest of 4. I will miss her being little so I guess our chats on the way home from school too. I don't and never have fitted into the village school crowd so there's nothing about the school run I will miss in that respect. But I miss them being little a lot. My rudest is 19 and he had a personality transplant at secondary and I just feel I know him at all and haven't since. So yes, it's easier and simpler at infant / primary. I rather I was taking the eldest to school then have this version of him

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MaxwellCat · 10/07/2023 00:45

It seems like people miss them being little rather than the school run.. I am an introvert and don't mix with the school parents so no social aspect of me to miss

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HappiDaze · 10/07/2023 02:15

Didn't mind it but was relieved once the school gate thing was over

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 10/07/2023 05:06

There are some small things about it that I miss, but overall I am delighted to not have to do the school run. I drive them when it's raining, but drop them off in the road near school and that's it.

whiteroseredrose · 10/07/2023 08:45

I didn't mind the school gate because I made good friends there.

It was odd in secondary school (and more so at University) as they make close friends that you just don't know.

SilkTrees · 10/07/2023 08:53

I only do it periodically because of work, but I've made good friends via DS's current school, and the school parents in general seem a likeably chilled and varied lot (school is a small, laidback, city centre, very socially-mixed, hippy-type environment with no uniforms and where the children call the teachers by the first names, so it figures). I'll miss that.

DS goes to secondary in 2024/5 and as other people have said, I think I will find it very strange that he's making friends I don't know.

Beezknees · 10/07/2023 08:58

I don't miss it at all! I'm a lone parent and trying to juggle work and school runs was a pain in the arse.

CalistoNoSolo · 10/07/2023 09:03

Primary school run was usually fairly grim (I wasn't part of the in crowd at the school gate) so don't miss that at all. Secondary school run finished for good a couple of months ago and I do miss that because it was a good chance to just talk with DD.

EversoDetermined · 10/07/2023 09:16

It is liberating once you no longer have to do it but I do miss it, I loved bumping into friendly faces for a chat, fortunately the friendships have sustained longer term and I go out with a group of the other mums regularly (mine are older teens now so it was a good while ago). It was a PITA in terms of work though and I can understand why others wouldn't have liked it if they are introverts.

Raininginmidjuly · 10/07/2023 09:20

People do get rose tinted specs. I do think for a lot of people, the youngest going to secondary often coincides with life getting generally more complex: ageing parents, stroppy teens wanting expensive items, university costs, exam stress, menopause - obviously huge generalisation but you get the idea. So often women - and it almost always is women - end up returning to FT work just at a time they are most shattered. So the school run days seem like bliss: kids out of the nappies and tantrum stage but not arsey teens and able to be SAHM / work PT … does that make sense?

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MaxwellCat · 10/07/2023 10:13

As I said not in with the school mums so no aspect of that to miss and we get the bus most mornings we aren’t even seated together as it’s busy so difficult to chat etc. I actually wouldn’t want another child as there is no way I could go back to the school run again!

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MrsMoastyToasty · 10/07/2023 10:26

I miss the friendships I made. DS school covered quite a large rural area and most of my friends were from the outlying villages. DS went to the secondary school behind our house and the other families chose other schools/moved out of the area. What with changing working hours etc we lost touch.

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