Easier with twins?!

[Flowers94]

I might just be not feeling great today but I have 5 month old twins, we have have three other children so I’m aware of how hard one baby can be.
we went out for breakfast this morning and somebody came over and actually said oh it’s easier with twins cos they just entertain each other don’t they.
i was actually shocked I didn’t know what to say.
in what world is two babies easier than one?! I would probably describe it as the hardest thing I’ve ever done

I found it easier in some respects having the two of them as they really did entertain eachother at times. But I had no other children so nothing else to compare it to

There is some truth in this but it doesn’t kick in until they’re quite a bit older than 5 months!

She might have a point aged 3, 5 months no.

It might be long term but at 5 months it’s definitely not easier 😂

I have 4 children and have constantly been told its easier than having one as they "play together" despite the fact mine never play together and always argue but yep those with one tell me its easier for me 🤦‍♀️

lol she’s crazy/ maybe trying to look on the bright side. I do think close together children ultimately is better but twins would have killed me in the first 3years

Mine ere exactly the same, we have an 8&9 year old too and I’m basically just a referee haha

My good friend with twins started seeing the pay off around 3 years old. However, i still wouldn’t say she has it easier even now and my god the baby/toddler stage was utter chaos. Sounds like that was said by someone who doesn’t have actual experience of multiples!

Lockdown with 9 year old twins was easier as they had a play mate… at 5 months absolutely not! My dm (who I love dearly) once told me toddler twins would be easier as they’ll already know how to share… I laughed loudly - “no mum, toddlers see a toy and think ‘mine’! They’re not born with automatic sharing skills!”

That's very annoying OP! I remember at age 3 my two still played parallel only and constantly sought attention and were jealous if one was being hugged. I remember thinking they said it would be worth it by 3!! But by 4.5 it changed. My two are best friends and hang out together all the time. I hear giggles and whispers every night. They do homework together and swap books. They are boy girl and have separate friends but at home they are two peas in a pod. They are 10 now and I can honestly say having them was the best thing that ever happened to me. I almost feel sorry for people who don't have twins!

First baby was a nightmare
Twins were defiantly easier!

Actually feeding solids is the only time it wasn't double work. While one is munching the other is eating.

I can imagine the toddler stage being even harder than newborns! Snatching toys off each other and running in opposite directions

Aw this is lovely, mine are both girls and I’m hoping they’ll grow up super close and be little best friends

Sorry meant that as in the next phase for your 5 month olds will be feeding solids...

Also my first baby was and still is a nightmare so my standards are possibly low!!

I’m hoping that’s the case for us! We’re staring at 6 months so praying it isn’t too bad haha. I love weaning though and making all the food for them so I am looking forward to that

I didn't find it easier at that age especially. The constant rounds of feeding and changing, sleep settling. I don't know if I looked shattered at the time, but remember pushing them around in their double buggy/pushchair and being told, by parents of twins, that it gets easier.

I think that is true at least. Mine are teenagers now and they do get along very well and never really argue, they fought the most up to around eight years old and then not much. They share a room too, and do hobbies together.

I think the right reply is, "And how old are your twins now?"

I have toddler twins (and an older one). There are glimpses of them entertaining each other, but they in no way make up for the bastarding hard work the rest of the time - or yet, anyway.

Twice the night feeds
Twice the nappies
Twice the carrying up and down the fucking stairs on the way to a nap or bed
Another person always there to do something dangerous/choke/snatch a toy off the other
Another one to potty train
Another one to wean
Another to do homework with, listen to, friendship issues ra ra
Feeling hobbled about going to playgrounds, swimming etc because you literally need an extra set of hands or eyes.

It is bastarding bastarding hard work and the world's inability to recognise that twins are two individuals rather than a harmonious set is a big contributor to that.

Lol. No way.
One step removed here I am Grandma of twins, they are a challenge. People seem to think they do everything together, definitely two individuals at 2 who seem to want to do the exact opposite at the same time😱.
To be honest it's amazing but I need a massive lie down afterwards. You have my admiration and sympathy it's very rewarding but extremely hard work.

Feeling hobbled about going to playgrounds, swimming etc because you literally need an extra set of hands or eyes.

Yes, just the practicalities of doing 'normal' things.

Though, going back to the OP, I think the thing people said the most was 'you've got your hands full' with reference to the girls and having twins. Though you also get a lot of attention in the early years, especially if they're identical, I found.

Hahahahahaha. No.

I remember people saying this to me about my twins. At 5 months hell no, they were more interested in their own toes than each other.

Now aged 3.5, yeah, there's something in it. Although that has to be balanced against two incredibly demanding young kids at once, which is no picnic.