Another shit birthday

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My dad text and said 'wow 34' im 35

My best friend forgot as she has a new boyfriend and is out with him.

Fucking hate birthdays.

When I was in my late twenties, single and just got my first place, my mum, auntie and cousin all went to Tenerife on my birthday and didn't invite me. I was a alone and so depressed about it. Same thing happened the year after instead they all went to New York! 😆

@justanothermanicmonday1 ffs 😭😭 these are making me sadder lol

Happy birthday op! It's my birthday today too.
I know making a fuss on your birthday is not very mumsnet. But I really like to have a nice few days Overy my birthday, I don't mean I need people to make a fuss of me but it is nice to feel your nearest and dearest want to spend time with you. But I do very much agree with pp's you need to plan it yourself and make sure you get the day you want. I don't mean it's ok for people to be shit, just do expect people to be shit! And plan accordingly.

Hahaha don't be.

I spent the rest of my twenties and early thirties either doing things myself or making plans with friends.

Now I have an amazing DP and one beautiful DC and another on the way and it's special every year.

Don't settle for less!

Aww a birthday twin.. happy birthday 🧡🎈

I honestly prepare myself every year, but it always hurts. Next year i wont do the same. Hope your day was better?

I was 40 on Friday. A brother text me happy birthday a few days before as he was going on a fancy holiday. Nothing from my sister or other brother or my dad. No gifts, not a card not even a text! And I always always go out of my way to make everyone feel special for all birthdays especially a ‘big’ one.
Then to make things worse it was my youngest DC’s birthday party today and everyone except MIL cancelled. Only one godparent text happy birthday and MIL bought her a £12 gift, the same that she’d bought her for Xmas.
So I have learnt that next year I shall do what I want and what DC want and we shan’t invite or expect anything from anyone. The £ saved can be spent on us!!
Happy Birthday OP, least you’re not 40 like me 😂

I always wonded if im being over sensitive but honestly i just find it to be really bad form, its one bloody message on one day. I have presents already wrapped for september friends who didnt even text me today 😞 my bestie sent me a voice note this morning, i thought aw bless her, she definetly sang happy birthday. She didnt even know and was talking about her day out. My brother made effort for me as we always do for eachother but i dont have my parents or a partner so just get a bit down..

I can clearly remember my 30th birthday (quite a long time ago now!) I was a single mum and had spent the day with my DS1. We had a nice time at the park, and I took him for a drink and a cake afterwards as a wee treat.
Later in the evening, he came into the bathroom as I was brushing my teeth - and he said to me "why does your bum wobble when you brush your teeth?". There's nothing like small children to bring you down to earth, is there?

20 years on, I've been married for sixteen years and have two further children. My DH isn't big on birthday celebrations, barely acknowledges his own.
So I've learned to treat myself on my birthday, and it's wonderful. I book myself a massage, have a glass of prosecco, and buy myself something nice.
My younger two kids are teenagers now, but they make a lovely effort - they write me a letter in my birthday cards, and get me a supermarket birthday cake with candles. And they're old enough now that they can go into town and get me a wee present.

I love my birthday now ❤️

This is good advice about making sure you have a happy birthday !

Happy birthday OP, I always cry on mine as well. Hope you have a lovely evening with your brother and wake up feeling great. Xx

@BearLoves that's awful, happy birthday to you and your DC and hope you have a better one next year 🎈🎈

Thank you very much x and yea i always cry too for some reason!

It's been nice yeah. But I do think there's a lot of pressure on birthdays and I kind of place it in my head like it's a representation of my life of something. So I want certain things done by my birthday and like the house all clean etc. So I do understand what you are feeling.

I have a not massively close relationship with my parents and although I saw them today it's never a particularly engaged conversation. I do know they are like this but I do always hope for more. So totally understand when you say you try to prepare yourself but do get disspointed.

Treat yourself this week!

For 20 plus years I have never forgotten a friends birthday.

Years ago I used to drive to her house to deliver a card, for about 10 years I did this, then text her instead. Never got a card back - apart from my 40th. Every single year without fail I heard nothing on my birthday from her.

One year she even rang me on my birthday at work because we worked for the same company, to ask me if she should buy a mutual colleague (not close friends) a present for her birthday. No mention of my birthday, I didn’t say anything.

A couple of years ago I decided not to wish her happy birthday, she was arsey with me for not.

I get it op, it stings like a bush of nettles.

One day I will grow some balls to tell my best friend how self absorbed she is.

I never say anything either. I always think 'ok i wont be as kind or thoughtful for them' but i dont have it in me. I didnt expect a parade but jeez, a happy birthday wouldve been nice from my closest people. thank god for my brother. Its been a really hard for me but i guess its time to lower my expectations and act accordingly from now on. Im sorry your friend acted like that x

@Stickybackplasticbear very similarly i did a real deep clean, washed the bedding, filled up the fridge and even washed half loads late yesterday so today could be a bit nicer. Online shopping now for a treat and will book something to do alone this week x

I didn’t say Happy Birthday!!!! Yes, thank goodness for your brother 😁.

I hope your okay op, birthdays when people selfishly don’t remember can be really hard xxx

Aw op, I had the same last year my supposed bestie completely forgot it was my birthday eventually got a message late in the evening "I didn't know it was your birthday!"

Dropped the "bestie" soon after that. Have made some better friends since then and don't regret it.
Life is to short for self absorbed people.

I hope you had a nice time with your brother. Happy birthday x

Thanks so much. Wish i was as brave as you x