MIL not happy about my pregnancy

[Megoo]

I’ve been with my partner for over 5 years & a few months ago I found out I was pregnant with a little girl. My partner has 2 boys that are teenagers from previous. I have met them lots of times & we get on.

i always felt unaccepted by my partners family. For example we both visited mil and my bfs uncle was pleasant but the auntie (married into the family) was really off with me, gave everyone else a hug and was sort of giving me funny looks from across the room.
even a few years ago MIL said “oh it’s a shame mark (my partner) broke up with his ex” just out of nowhere after I helped her decorate her house.

anyway just a snippet of things they’ve done to let me know I’m not important. and fast forward to now I am 4 months pregnant with his first daughter, my first child, I am very happy,

told MIL & she said “ha what does mark think”
so I said “nervous/excited”
then she was like “yeah I thought so”
then I said something else regarding my scans and she completely ignored what I said and changed the subject.

my own family have been wonderful & super supportive.

anyone else experienced the alienation, what did you do?

I went NC. In laws weren’t happy about me having a 4th baby and said so, so they didn’t get to come to the hospital to see us. They’ve seen very little of the kids since, I actively avoid them.

What did your husband say about her remark? Honestly horrible MIL’s are a fact of life, so the important part is whether your husband will defend and protect you.

Personally I would have gone NC just for the comment about the ex, but then I have a 0 MIL bullshit tolerance.

When MIL asked how does your partner feel about pregnancy, I would have said ask him. Your partner needs to have a word with his family telling them he’s moved on with you and is happy. My own mother said when I told her I was pregnant was “was it planned” which hurt me and my DH a lot. I did say why would you say such a thing and she said she didn’t mean anything nasty.

It's absolutely none of her business. I would cut her off if I were you.

Brace yourself OP

You are in for a difficult 18 years in the set up you have described

Info needed/wanted: was there any errr cross over between you and ex? ie did he cheat with you? Is there a significant age gap

Are they religious at all and don't believe in kids outside of marriage?

Honestly if after 5 years they haven't really accepted you they probably won't. What you want to do with that is up to you and partner.

Also why did you tell MIL without partner present. surely it's his news to tell his parents

im in my 30s, his in his 40s and they broke up years before we even spoke. His not a man of many words so I told her hoping she might be happy. You are right though, they will always be c8nts. I’m just grateful I have my family to support me.

Then i can't think of any reason why they dislike you. If he cheated i'd maybe understand a dislike of the OW but if its obvious there wasn't then they're being a tad redic. Sounds like my sister's mil. She didn't get any better after 15 years