The kindness prize….

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Weird one (sorry🙈)…..the kindness prize is a truly brilliant thing….but in the following circs potentially not appropriate?! Sorry (again), another name change too!
A good (read more) months (at least) ago dc returned from a school trip. Whilst going up some stairs the student in front of them collapsed and suffered a seizure/fit. Dc (endurance sport fit) carried the other student down to road level, made sure they were protected from the hard surfaces, put them in the recovery position, called for medical help, asked a friend to ring the affected student’s parents, sent another bystander running to a local house where he knew a hospital dr lived….you get the picture. I know the majority to be true because the dr fetched from their home chatted to me a few days after the event. No one (school included) ever mentioned it again, which has always been fine - I’m just pleased dc was able to help and hope someone would do the same for any of mine. However, turns out school have decided to give dc an end of year spontaneous “kindness prize”. Dc feels thoroughly humiliated - like they’re being ridiculous and demanding recognition for wiping the other students brow🤷🏼‍♀️…DC would rather not receive anything and that the incident continues to be unknown to the majority. I’ve said if they feel like that I understand and they should make it plain to school’s senior management they want no part or mention in any way (in addition to moving schools for 6th form). What would you do?

Just write to the school saying that you appreciate the thought behind the gesture but your DC genuinely would prefer that their actions stayed private and would be embarrassed if a public show was made over something that was spontaneous and natural response to a medical emergency. And that you hope they will respect DC's decision on this.

Yep, I think dc should do it rather than me though m, but yes, it just needs to be made clear they want no further part in the bizarre (& very late shenanigans) school have decided on pursuing.

I know, I think,what your child means.

A few years ago, in the early hours, daughter heard a woman screaming, ran to her, disturbed her would be rapist and gave police a good description of perpetrator, who pleaded guilty.

The judge at the trial awarded daughter a commendation because she potentially put her own life at risk to save another. Daughter thanked the judge, but said no thanks, I did what anyone would do in the circumstances.

My child (adult) would totally understand where your child is coming from