Safeguarding

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Help!

Our DS wrote about a story instead of what he did at the weekend,

It included elements of weeing and pooing and dinosaurs putting fires out. However, it also mentioned daddy hitting mummy and a baby - which has never happened ever.

Tye school phoned in regards to safeguarding for a meeting with the head, he said he was happy for us to talk to him and it would just stay between us. But I just cannot sleep I have a horrible feeling that this won’t blow over even though it was obvious that it was just a story.

if they refer do they have to tell you?

hi,
When you say refer do you mean to SS?

Hopefully they will just speak to you about their concerns and once you confirm it was just a fabricated story that will be the end of it.
Children come out with all sorts of wild things at primary schools.
The dinosaurs putting out fires is clearly from his imagination so it’s not un fathomable to the staff that other elements of the story are also fiction.
I suspect their just following procedures in place.
Please don’t stress yourself over the situation.
Is there even baby in your household?

correction
*suspect they’re following procedures

Yes he has a younger sibling but we are a very loving household we don’t even argue in front or without the children.

Is he playing games online? Is he seeing violence there?

Pupils write about all sorts of things in stories. Most of the time it's completely fictional, but occasionally children disclose things in their work.

Schools have to respond to it as a potential safeguarding issue because the alternative to a consistent approach means someone could fall through the net.

They'll probably give you a call, make a note they've talked to you and and that's the end of it.

Please don't worry. One story is not going to turn into a social services referral.

Oh, don't worry! This sort of thing happens often, it'll just be a quick chat to make sure he was literally telling stories, nothing more. It'll be 10 minutes of your time.

I’ve had the chat they seemed reassured but I’m such a worrier. They said that it wouldn’t go any further, but I just can’t help but wonder.

He knows now not to tell lies and if he can’t remember rather than write a story he can ask for more time to think.

we’ve also introduced a my favourite part of my day and weekend so we discuss what we’ve done rather than him just saying he can’t remember all the time.

Yes they should tell you if they refer you to social services. It doesn't sound like they plan to.

The “telling lies” things seems a bit harsh and confusing. He wrote fiction. Dinosaurs don’t put fires out but you aren’t telling him off for “lying” about that.

Kids do this alot. I remember mine at the supermarket looking up with big eyes and begging me not to beat them (I’ve never hit them). They thought they were funny. I didn’t agree.

Be calm, answer their questions etc. the school will also be able to tell them how your child presents every other day and whether they come to school bruised erc