To vow to do less… everywhere in life!

[Applebobbins]

I do too much! Everywhere! At work I’m always going the extra mile, at home I’m constantly busy, I’m on the committee for a social group I enjoy, but I’m spreading myself so thin I feel constantly exhausted, and I’m sick of it.
so, I’m making a vow… to do LESS! To say no! To not volunteer, to not put myself out but to try just doing the bare minimum… until I right myself again because I’m sinking.

does anyone else feel like this?

ive been doing too much so long I’m not even sure what doing the bare minimum looks like. It feels scary but I know something has to give!

feels like a revelation! And freeing!

Yes, I feel the same. I don’t think I could ever do the bare minimum but I am cutting back on the number of things I’m involved in, so it can still do a good job at what’s left and have time to myself.

I am the first to offer to help others but realise that without others meaning to, I am taken advantage of and although I help them, I feel exhausted myself. This is on top of working hard in work and trying to raise my family. I feel things are slipping and I’m not giving my best to myself or my family at the moment and it’s because I have taken on too much. My problem is to now work out how I distance myself from others that I have been there for, to give me some time back. I’m not good at saying no or watching others struggle.

This is my New Year’s resolution each year. Learning that no is a full sentence helped me a lot.

I’d say definitely don’t bother going the extra mile at work. I always did this for my previous company, did roles that were above my pay grade etc. No sick days for 6 years. No pay rise, shit bonus, no recognition, bullied by my manager and got made redundant. Will never be giving any more than bare minimum at work ever again because there is no point.

I think it's important to remember that you don't need to be perfect, just "good enough."

At work....of course I do my job and cover what needs doing, am punctual and polite and friendly etc but I don't work unpaid overtime, don't stay at the office late unless there's an emergency. In a previous job I busted a gut and often worked extra hours and nobody cared. It just made me ill.

At home I keep things as simple as possible. If dinner for everyone is beans on toast then that's fine. Everyone is fed, it doesn't have to be a gourmet meal every night. DDs do a maximum of 2 activity clubs a week as otherwise it's just too much rushing around!