If you cocked up the takeaway

[roarrfeckingroar]

If you / your partner accidentally just ordered agreed takeaway for one of you (say pizza via an app) and it was a genuine mistake, how would you / they react?

To add, I'm the only vegetarian in the house so I usually can't eat anyone else's food.

My STBX relationship is a shit storm and I'm leaving soon with the kids. I asked because my gauge of what is normal is so off now I just needed a bit of recalibration from the MN massive.

Thanks all - and for what it's worth, I've never made a similar mistake before.

Sorry, I meant delivery. I don't know anyone who picks up takeaway (London central).

I cocked it up because I added his pizza to the basket first then changed my mind about mine twice and someone deleted his before pressing go. I didn't look at the total cost.

I hope you manage to leave very soon and that you're safe and that he hasn't hurt you over this.

Take care of yourself. No one deserves to be in trouble, shouted at, verbal abuse or physical abuse for accidentally deleting his pizza off an order. You deserve better.

I did that the other day, managed to forget Dh’s order. He said “don’t worry, I’ll find something in the fridge”, obviously I offered to give him my food because I screwed up but he refused anyway.

If I was really hungry then I'd probably be pretty gutted to be honest. I wouldn't be horrible about it but I would be grumpy! It's all very well saying order another takeaway but it can take over an hour at peak times.

Haha, exactly! I have a good sense of humour but this wouldn't really be something to make me laugh.

It depends really

When was it noticed?
Is it on a background of general uselessness/thoughtlessness?
Does it then become my responsibility to sort out? What steps do they put in place to sort it out?

A lot of factors really. But to be perfectly honest I'd be pretty annoyed if Dh someone deleted my pizza

What he do OP? It must have been pretty awful if you're going to leave him over it.

I wouldn’t get angry about it, I’d be like “giant cheesy bowl of pasta it is then”. Mistakes happen, it’s really not a big thing. If you have nothing else in then you just share. It’s very minor in the great big scheme of things.

If I was hungry and had been looking forward to a treat, I'd probably be quite grumpy actually.

I'd get over it, we'd share what there was and have some bread and cheese or cook extra rice if we needed it, but my initial reaction might not be something to be proud of. * *

I would see what we have in to make it stretch. Whatever salad and some chips if you want more carbs.

I would see my arse. We rarely get takeaway and buy the time you've ordered and waited, it's too late to start fucking about making other stuff. If it were dh's fault, it would be more evidence of the fact that if I don't do it, it doesn't get done properly, so I would probably be rather rage filled. I'd end up eating something shit, or just be too hungry to eat anything at all, because if you want takeaway, nothing else will do.

Nooo he didn't do anything awful. Sorry if I worried anyone. I'm leaving for other reasons but wanted to see whether the quiet irritation and general bad atmosphere followed by going straight to (his) bed was normal.

Thanks for all responses

I’d be pissed

I'd be disappointed and angry, but try not to show it. I'd share out what there was and try to add to it to make a proper meal.

If it was pizza, we don't get individual ones, we get one big one, and half and half, so we'd be fine with that.

If it was an Indian though, I'd be pissed the fuck off. DH gets korma sometimes, which I don't like - I have lamb madras.

But we always double check the order and read it out to check everything is on it or if anyone wants to add to it.

So he deleted his choice but it's your fault?

Depends how hungry I was.

Not that hungry, I would be annoyed but not end of the world and would move on. Would expect him to share.

Very hungry, I would go into a grump and expect DH to fix it and own his mistake.

I ordered a Deliveroo yesterday and forgot the Diet Coke I was really look forward to. It was my mistake and I was still pissed off!

Sulking off to bed is poor but more indicative of the relationship than this event (from what you've shared so far).
Offer him yours while you order more or let him choose to wait until his food comes. He gets to choose as you made the mistake. Sulking isn't going to help.

I presume the OP meant somehow rather than someone.

It would depend on how hungry I was! I can be a right dick when I'm hangry.

At the exact opposite end of the spectrum I once (when on some quite strong pain meds) managed to order our takeaway twice so we got double the amount of everything.

I got teased about that for some time.

My partner would be chill about it because he is generally. It would totally depend on the time of the month how I reacted. And how much I was looking forward to the takeaway. Fairly sure we would end up sharing the meal for one and supplementing with whatever we could find. Or just keeping the food warm and ordering more.

The fact that you're not sure what would be an appropriate reaction is sad to read. I hope you're in a better place this time next year and can look back on this as a closed chapter in your life. Fwiw, I'd be dramatic about him forgetting my existence and not even double checking. But he knows me being dramatic isn't in a bad way, more a mock but kinda serious way and he'd give me his and reorder seeing as it was a delivery. But I wouldn't want him to wait to eat so we'd both wait for the second delivery so we can eat together. Sounds like there's just too much water under the bridge for yous. Shit happens, we should be able to make light out of it soon enough when it does. When that's gone, I'd class a relationship as being done. Hope you're ok.

We'd just order the missing food. If too late we'd split it.

Split the one that did get there.