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If you wish you had a Personal Trainer or went to the gym, what stops you?

227 replies

Watchkeys · 05/07/2023 09:55

I'm curious about this, as a PT myself. I'm sure there's billions of people out there who are too shy or not financially able or... well, I wonder what else stops people. I train beginners and my aim is to get non-starters started, and build confidence.

What would help you get started?

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Isthatarealname · 05/07/2023 13:50

I go to the gym but don't have a PT because of Money and childcare.

Gym is open 24 hours so I can just pop in whenever I have a childfree hour. Its not to say PT aren't worth the money but its just way more than I can afford easily.

CaptainSeven · 05/07/2023 13:51

Time. Money. Time.

Lack of time.

I probably have just enough time to exercise but not enough to get somewhere and factor in the return journey, showering, etc.

Archeron · 05/07/2023 13:52

Money, full stop. It would be a stretch to afford £40 per month for the gym, never mind another £100-ish for PT sessions.

I would be interested in a weekly PT session shared with a small group of 4-5 women paying a fiver each. That would be more affordable.

Nuevabegin · 05/07/2023 13:53

Im a regular gym member, I’ve always been really slim and lost weight after kids but for me it’s all about energy and cardio , if I don’t go to the gym I feel so so sluggish and that doesn’t work with 3 very high energy kids.
I think a barrier is obviously money and time , outside of my dh and school ( when I work ) we have absolutely zero childcare so because you are on a parenting site childcare and lack of will be an issue. I’ve to go in the evenings when I’m exhausted. I’ve no interest in getting a pt as I’ve designed my own workout and it works really well for my body. I’m in Ireland and so so so many people are overweight so I think you are in the right area but wish it was more universal so everyone can access help .

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 05/07/2023 13:53

Time and the lack of it.

ScarletWitchM · 05/07/2023 13:57

The lack of price transparency - I want to understand what the hourly rate is before I even consider it. The couple that I have spoken to before are very expensive (in London) so £60 an hour for a min 2 hour session twice a week is too expensive for me

lndnbrdge91 · 05/07/2023 13:58

Money and time. I had a PT for a few sessions and it was so helpful in learning some exercises post injury.

In hindsight I should have asked to focus on exercises I could do at home with minimal or easy to access equipment; I do have some things I still
do with resistance bands.

But after the sessions I never found time to get to the gym again. Short home visits would be appealing.

MotherWol · 05/07/2023 14:10

I think this is probably me; I do regular classes (pilates and spin) but I don't go to the gym because I don't really know where to start with a routine. I've found a gym that I can get to on my lunch breaks and plan to try it out after the summer; I'm going to book a few sessions with a PT to have them come up with a routine that I can do by myself.

The thing that puts me off though is it's a university gym, and I suspect that most of the staff will be in their 20s while I'm 40. I'm not unfit, but I've been through two pregnancies, my muscles and joints are less flexible than they used to be, and I have time pressures that maybe they don't. My goal isn't getting super-thin or shredded, it's making my body strong and resilient for the next decade before menopause. I'm apprehensive that they won't know how to relate to that.

I did briefly have a great PT between lockdowns, who I trained with in a park near my home; she brought all the equipment and we worked out outdoors. She was really encouraging, understood my goals, and really made me feel good about exercising at a time when it was really tempting to quit. I only stopped because she moved out of London, but that's exactly what I'd be looking for again - a PT who can really respond to what you want to get out of it, and support you to reach your goals.

I think there are probably a lot of women like me - in a position to invest in their fitness, but not sure where to get started, and put off by the thought that PTs haven't got experience of their life stage or goals. So I'd agree with the PP who said really work out who your target client is, and focus your marketing on them. Think about the imagery you use (e.g. not super-thin influencer girls in lululemon) and the language, and offer sessions that are likely to fit with their schedules.

BigGreen · 05/07/2023 14:25

Money and would be put off discussing my prolapse.

Ylvamoon · 05/07/2023 14:43

The last PT I booked through the gym as I wanted to get fit for a specific activity like running a marathon .

Well, all SHE did was assume I wanted to loose weight (nope - although I knew I needed to loose a bit).
The exercises I was given were mainly upper body & arms - ok, plus core - excellent!.
However she failed to adress anything cardio or lower body/ legs.
So as a PT, please listen to your client- we might be slightly overweight, but we are not dumb and relise with a good exercise regime, the pounds will eventually come off! You don't need to spell it out.

As for the gym, I just can't afford it anymore. Plus, due to my FT job, I have to share the gym with 200 other people abd wait fort he equipment to be free. I just didn't feel comfortable with that.

Before, I worked shifts so could go at quieter times.

I still exercise but at home (weights) and make use pf a local park / outdoor gym.
Iseem to be the only one!

ProfessorXtra · 05/07/2023 15:11

From my point of view - someone who used to go to the gym 4 to 5 times a week, competitive body builder and also kick boxing at least twice a week.

Time is now an issue for me

But overwhelmingly it’s that the vast majority of PTs are under qualified. Very often their knowledge of, even, the body is very limited

The vast majority (including women) don’t understand women’s bodies, hormonal impacts, menopause, PCOS etc. I get it may not be part of initial qualifications but I am of the opinion that you would do further studying if you cared.

Still far too many ‘chicken, broccoli and rice 5 times a day and protein shake in the PWOW’ or ‘have an entire pizza when bulking’ If your nutritional knowledge and advice stops at that, you need to do more

lack of knowledge of food allergies and intolerances.

Lack of knowledge or imagination when recommending foods.

Food plans that verge disordered eating.

Lack of knowledge on disordered eating or how disordered eating can become orthorexia and is easier to hide. PTs can inadvertently encourage disordered eating

Trying to force clients to train so hard they are sick and that being an achievement.

Trying to force people to do things they don’t enjoy and trying to convince them that it’s just because it not a habit

Shouting things like ‘pain is progress’ and ‘sweat is just fat crying’

Judging client because they have a bad week or month.

I think the training required before someone can call themselves a PT is woefully inadequate. The markets been flooded, with a lot of people who do it badly and do the above. This puts people off even trying.

Going to the gym, alone, isn’t ideal. Due to Gym regulars videoing themselves in Gyms and posting it on SM. Meaning they get people in the back ground. Sometimes even posting it to make fun of other gym goers.

Regular gym goers often seem to think they have ownership of the gym and special rights and don’t like new comers.

Watchkeys · 05/07/2023 15:19

@ProfessorXtra

I think it caters to the majority, rather than to people with specific conditions.

You're right that if people care, they learn more, but you can't expect every personal trainer to care about everything.

A PT is a PT, not a specialist in eating disorders or menopause. Not a dietician. If anybody expects a PT to have anything but a layman's understanding of those issues, that's their responsibility, not the PT's. Unless the PT is actively claiming to be an expert in that area.

How many PTs do you know, that you have such breadth of knowledge about their failings?

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Backstreets · 05/07/2023 15:21

I’ve worked with PTs before. V expensive and some of them are extreme nobs. If I ever do it again it’ll be a woman.

Confusion101 · 05/07/2023 15:41

My main reasons:

  1. I hate being told what to do... I shudder at the thoughts of someone shouting at me trying to make me do 5 more sit ups when I think I've reached my max
  2. Lack of confidence... Have in my head I'm extremely unfit and am useless
  3. Ability... Links to above but whenever I got programmes from people, they have never given me an exercise programme I've actually been able to do which has shot my confidence even more.
MidnightMeltdown · 05/07/2023 15:44

Watchkeys · 05/07/2023 15:19

@ProfessorXtra

I think it caters to the majority, rather than to people with specific conditions.

You're right that if people care, they learn more, but you can't expect every personal trainer to care about everything.

A PT is a PT, not a specialist in eating disorders or menopause. Not a dietician. If anybody expects a PT to have anything but a layman's understanding of those issues, that's their responsibility, not the PT's. Unless the PT is actively claiming to be an expert in that area.

How many PTs do you know, that you have such breadth of knowledge about their failings?

That's fair enough, but the fees they charge are huge. I'm in the north and they charge £50 an hour. For that, I think it's reasonable to expect them to be a lot more knowledgeable.

Menopause isn't really a 'specific condition'. It applies to 50% of the population at some point in their lives.

SoWhatEh · 05/07/2023 15:49

Watchkeys · 05/07/2023 10:08

That's a bit of a crap experience for you @pinklama

There's quite a lot of info on PT training courses about working to encourage clients, and that kind of stuff is specifically pointed out as something that will lose you customers! She won't last long, I suspect.

One of my PTs bitched about other clients to me. I thought, what does she say about me behind my back? I stopped going to her after three months and went to someone else instead.

Watchkeys · 05/07/2023 15:51

Menopause isn't really a 'specific condition'. It applies to 50% of the population at some point in their lives

Yes, specific to age and sex, then. The majority of people aren't going through menopause, and that's all I was saying; the training caters to the majority, is very specifically not specialist in the areas mentioned, but, if adhered to, will protect the majority from most of the injuries and accidents that you commonly see in people who exercise without guidance.

£50 in the North is a lot. I'm in the South East and you can get a PT for £40p/h.

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RausageSoul · 05/07/2023 15:52

Because I know that a proper fitness journey takes a lot more work than seeing PT for 2 to 3 hours per week.

Enko · 05/07/2023 15:59

For me its cost that puts me off. Also few of them get what being post menopause woman is like and how it affects your abilities.

Whyjustwhy123 · 05/07/2023 16:00

Not read the whole thread….

I got a PT about a year ago after LOTS of persuasion from the DH.

I was so anxious as not stepped into a hymn for years though I’m quite fit as run 20-30K a week.

I still find the whole experience utterly intimidating but my PT is super friendly. But I think he had hoped I would get to the point of attending the gym by myself - I don’t think I will do - it must be so frustrating that I don’t progress without him?

he has done me a home program but never do it. It turns out I’m lazy!

Whyjustwhy123 · 05/07/2023 16:01

Gym not hymn. Though to be fair I’ve also not stepped into a hymn for about 30 plus years

loopychick · 05/07/2023 16:01

Money is the thing stopping me
I can barely afford the gym membership nowadays let alone a PT too

Mutabiliss · 05/07/2023 16:02

I quite like the idea of a small group for 40+ too - you might be onto something there! I know I ought to be doing weights but would hate to try them myself in the gym, having a few people around would be less intimidating.

Whyjustwhy123 · 05/07/2023 16:05

I’m slightly laughing at some of these posts. My PT has never shouted at me! And he pushes me but now when he asks me to do something I can’t I try my best then just laugh in his face and go ‘you’re having a laugh I can’t do that’. I’m paying him so I can say no!

MovingBird123 · 05/07/2023 16:07

Money.

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