Do I want another baby?

[Mylittlesandwich]

I have a 3yo DS. He's my favourite person in the world. I had horrible PGP during my pregnancy, I still have bother with my pelvis and back now. I struggled to breastfeed and my PND was so bad it almost killed me. I was so so sure I was one and done.

Over the last few months feelings of wanting a second have started to creep in. I miss the tiny baby I had as he's growing in to an incredible little boy. I wonder how he'll be without a sibling years from now when we're gone. I hope he surrounds himself with good people but what if he's alone in the world?

Then what if we have another and my PGP is so bad this time I can't parent him while pregnant and maybe I won't be as mobile ever. What if they don't even like each other and I've made his life harder not better? What if my PND comes back and kills me?

We aren't affluent by any means but we could support 2 children, they just wouldn't be as financially well off as if we stuck at 1. My reasons for being one and done were very clear but now I'm not so sure?

Bless you what a position to be in and with your history . No one has a magic wand and can make your issues disappear.
Could you honestly cope with the pregnancy and baby of you were in the exact same position as you were with your child?
no one can say you will or wont have issues or if they will be more severe or less severe.

Hi OP, I had very slight PGP with my first child who was a smaller baby but HORRENDOUS PGP with my second who was a bigger baby. I was on crutches and the pain made me suicidal. I had really bad PND with my first so was expecting it with my second but I didn’t get it at all. My eldest was only 22nd the when youngest was born so looking after him was hard, but we managed. Almost 10 yesrs
later I’m still having issues with my hips/pelvis though. I’d like another baby too but the thought of that pain really terrifies me and the lasting effect it would have on my body really scare me.
Whether to go for another is such a tough call isn’t it, so ultimately you have to decide. I adore having 2 and so close in age has made them so close. Really hope my reply has helped 🤷🏻‍♀️🥰

@Mumstheword37

Thanks for your reply. I've decided one is enough. I weighed up the pros and cons and decided that a mum who is mentally well and physically well enough to play with DS is better than a sibling and a less well mum.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't sometimes feel guilty for making DS an only but it is what it is.

@Mylittlesandwich I’m glad you’ve made your decision, that uncertainty is hard isn’t it. I know plenty of only children and they’re all well rounded, like you said your son gets your sole attention being just him 🥰