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Would you buy a birthday gift?

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cashinmynaaa · 04/07/2023 07:24

I'm 37 and my friend at the time had a friend who was a little bit older at 53.
She wasn't very nice to her and I felt always tried to make her look stupid
The lady was very quiet and lived at home with her parents.
She was a lovely lady and I got on well with her.
I must have met up with her a few times with friend never alone.
Anyway I fell out with friend (as I seen her true colours )
During lockdown the lady messaged me and we started texting back and forth.
This lady lost her parents last year and is basically lost.
She's angry /upset /shocked etc
I lost my mum too a few years ago so kind of understand.

I asked her to meet for a coffee and We met for a hour and she told me she doesn't get out now as nobody really bothers with her.
She told me it's her birthday in July and first one without parents.

Anyway two days ago she asked if I fancied lunch in two weeks and I said of course.
I checked and the day she wants to meet up is her birthday
I'm thinking of getting her a card and some nice chocolates
Is that okay?
I know we aren't exactly close but it feels like she would appreciate it.

What would you do?

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CheeseCakeSunflowers · 04/07/2023 07:29

That sounds like a good idea to me, I hope you both enjoy the meal.

AnneButNotHathaway · 04/07/2023 07:58

I agree, sounds like a good idea. I try to do something for people on their birthdays, even if it's a simple smartshow 3d video card, and since you are meeting her on the exact day, bringing chocolates would be nice!

ThatFraggle · 04/07/2023 08:00

That sounds kind and appropriate.

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Sagaris · 04/07/2023 08:34

A nice gesture, I'm sure she will appreciate it.

Hecatoncheires · 04/07/2023 08:38

That's a very kind thought, OP. I'm sure it will be very well-received. Hope you both enjoy your lunch when you get together.

WoofWoofBeachLife · 04/07/2023 08:40

That sounds perfect you are very thoughtful. Have a lovely lunch with your friend. X

pizzaHeart · 04/07/2023 08:40

it’s a nice idea. In this situation I would go “small but thoughtful” so I wouldn’t buy Cadburys from the supermarket but something more interesting.

Brefugee · 04/07/2023 08:42

you sound kind and lovely, OP. Can you afford to pay for her lunch? definitely a card and small gift would be lovely.

Be prepared that she may be teary and emotional.

CC4712 · 04/07/2023 08:50

TBH- unless it was somewhere very expensive, I'd take a card and small gift, plus pay for her lunch. Otherwise, a card and gift is lovely.

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