Trying to make DH go to hospital - emergency?

[Eggyhair]

DH was just having a shower. We heard an almighty bang and he didn't respond when I called him.

I went in there and he was laying on his back, shower curtain pulled off the rail, with the shower attachment on the floor, spraying water everywhere.

He says he doesn't know what happened, except he was standing in the bath, then felt himself fall backwards, then was just lying on the floor.

I've got him up, tried to dry floor as best as possible (the entire floor was flooded), but he's insisting he's fine and will not get checked out.

Umm what?!

Get him checked over but don't ring 999.

It could be a mini stroke - he needs checking out

I have high blood pressure, whenever there’s a surge or dip in my blood pressure I faint. I can feel the faint coming on but I don’t always remember fainting afterwards and dh needs to explain it to me.
I always phone gp to check in or 111 and they advise what to do next. I’d definitely phone 111 if he’s completely refusing a&e. Could he be feeling a bit worried about it?

Please don’t phone 999
Id ring 111 and ask if he needs to go to A&E or if it can wait til tomorrow for GP

OP we had a similar incident that's actually happened twice and I've called an ambulance both times

First time, I heard an almighty bang and when I called my partner I didn't hear anything. I went into the bathroom and he was unconscious face first in a pool of blood. When he came around, he was slurring his speech and very confused. Called an ambulance and they came quite quickly and took him in for observation and stitches for his head

After this I wouldn't let him have a bath or shower without anyone at home

Second time he was in the bath and he told me he suddenly felt unwell. I started to drain the bath and he vomited and then passed out again
Again I called an ambulance

They haven't managed to find anything (my boyfriend is 33) but these could have been problems with his heart or possibly a stroke given the first incident

Please take him to get checked over

I'd like to add that both times the paramedics said we did the right thing

I think he needs to be seen. If there,was no warning - cardiac causes such as a slow heart beat need to be ruled out. He needs a heart tracing as a minimum. Unlikely to be a mini stroke from what you describe

....if it can wait til tomorrow for GP

If there's even a remote chance he has a head injury, it absolutely cannot wait until tomorrow.

Could be a TIA,a seizure, a faint or a slip hanging his head hence lack of memory. Any of these require him to go to hospital. They are not normal.
Something very similar happened to me years ago. I didn't go to hospital. Firstly i nearly downed and would have done if my mum hadn't barged in... what happens if it happens again? Servings it later grandsire I had concussion which became evident when I was dragged to the gp vafter 2 days of confusion, thirdly tests revealed it was actually ac taste type of epileptic seizure, the first of many which have followed since then. @Eggyhair is he perfectly normal, now? Headache? Co-ordination? Speech? Memory? Confusion? Balance? If give him the choice of either hospital now and be ringing 111v or he had no other option than the gp first thing
Since my first size which manifested like that I've had several seizures so severe they have been classified as near death seizures. That might make him listen( probably won't as being an ostrich is easier). Next time might be much worse. It's not fair to make other people worry because he's putting himself at that risk by avoiding an easy check. Good luck. I'm not meaning to be alarmist, just going off you tell him this it might kick him into gear to Co operate. He's probably slipped and bashed his head giving himself concussion, but it needs checking. My husband awful at c agreeing to go to hospital or doctors when it glaringly necessary so I geek you pain ( and sheet annoyance in my case@!)

Hmm given your update I’d say he needs to be seen but that’s easier said than done - difficult to make a grown man get in the car if he doesn’t want to

you say he won’t let you call 111- not sure why you can’t just go to another room and do that. That’s what I would do if he refused to be taken to a&e. If you go take snacks and a pillow as it may be a long wait.

I literally did this myself recently. Tipped my head back to wash my hair, felt myself falling backwards, grabbed the curtain on my way down.

Mine was due to positional vertigo. If you could get him to sit down but tip his head right back for a good minute and see if he gets any pulling sensation.

A and E

This happened to my DH 19 years ago. We did go to a and e, waited all night, he was fine. Get some rest and get him to make a gp's appointment on the morning

I vote 111. I hope he's ok x

Given he has high blood pressure, he is at higher risk of stroke, so you really do need to get medical advice this evening. Hope all is well.

Thanks all. I rung 111, spoke to a lovely man. DH refused to speak or answer questions initially, but the man seemed to get through to him. He went through several questions, then said the advice was to be seem by his GP within 24hrs, so I will ring them in the morning.

He seems completely normal, no confusion, slurring, no bump visible on his head, (to be fair, I think his back took the hit).

I've used one of those heart monitor things (you put your fingers on it/attach to chest), and that seems normal (his heart rate is always around 60).

A neighbour has epilepsy and this is very like how his seizures are, and he has no memory of it and thinks people are making it up and making a fuss.

If this is the first time something like this has happened he really should go to A&E, it’s not worth it to leave it.

Similar happened to my husband. He ended up at GP the next day and I went with him. I got a huge lecture from GP for not ringing an ambulance or taking him to hospital myself.

please make him go to the hospital. My good friend lost her husband January 31st this year.. he had several mini strokes and tried to ignore it. He was 48 years old . His Obituary (yes I checked with my friend, his wife to post and she said if it saves only one life..then yes please share it) https://www.northviewfuneralchapel.com/obituaries/leo-vandendries-jr/

I work In A&E he needs checking out, they will do an ECG to check he doesn't have a dangerous heart rhythm.

He should get checked out but calcium channel blockers can cause dizziness etc - I had a neurological condition and was put on one for a few weeks - I was taking a shower and full on fainted - and I'm not a fainter!! I was an inpatient in hospital at the time and they called the crash alarm!! I came too and they laid me on bed, made me drink a load of water and did ECG etc - all fine and said it was a vaso-vagal faint. The hot air in shower can cause it sometimes. I they told me I needed to drink a good amount on the tablets. It might be connected to that but best to be sure.

I’d say A&E, I’ve had two black outs and now I know why they are called that. You’re aware one second and the next you’re lying on the floor or sat slumped over with arms dangling on the floor. Completely different to a faint, I always knew when I’ve fainted.
My black outs were blood pressure related, an adjustment to medication was needed and I’ve been ok since.
If he refusing to take prescribed medication then he’s an idiot.

Meant to add that the steamy warm environment of shower can dilate the blood vessels this causing dizziness / faint

Glad you rang 111 and got advice.

For all those with husbands refusing medical care- My dh was once having chest pains and feeling faint, and was absolutely refusing my offer to take him to A&E. So I told him I would phone 999 instead.
He got in the car pretty quickly!

@IDontLoveTheWayYouLie he fell, hit his head and was unresponsive. 999 wouldn't be an irrational call to make.