Someone gets shouty but says it's you who's being aggressive, what do you say?

[katebutnottheprincess]

If someone gets shouty in a discussion but you've managed to stay calm, only for them to tell you you're 'upset and being aggressive'. What would you say other than 'I'm not!'

Calmly reiterate your point, and walk away.

Thanks @Summerhillsquare

I would tell them to stop trying to gas light me and focus on the discussion.

Take a deep breath, look them in the eye amd say "OK, it seems like you're getting a little emotional. Would you like to take a few minutes to calm down and then continue this conversation?" Works a treat on my aggressive, gaslighting ex dp (who is a male 6'4" ex athlete who bullies everyone then cries victim).

“Why don’t we speak about this when you have calmed down” and walk away.

I wouldn't even entertain it and just say "ok" and walk away.

Great - I'l try that! Thanks.

I just smile and tilt my head

Punch them really really hard in the face.

They've accused you of being aggressive so you might as well.

I'm joking but I feel your pain, someone tells me to calm down and not panic at work, when I'm doing neither and they are just trying to wind me up. They have no idea just how close to physical violence they regularly skirt.