What's the point?

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So many threads, particularly on the Relationship board, where posters are asking for advice or some moral support but instead are met with:

Why did you marry such a twat?

I feel sorry for your DC.

You should have left ages ago and you're stupid not to have.

How are these comments in any way helpful or supportive?

I find it really sad that, in the whole 'be kind' era, people can be so incredibly nasty and judgemental. They must realise that they are sticking the boot in to someone who has openly admitted that they are vulnerable. What do people gain from doing that? A sense of superiority?

People really need to think about the real life effect their words can have before banging away on their keyboards.

I don't actually think there are any bad comments, unless someone is clearly obnoxious about the poster themselves.

From real life, not MN:
For example, when I was wringing my hands wondering what I could do to stop my ex going out drinking all night, a friend said, 'he's just a twat, a lot of us wonder what the hell your doing with him in the first place'. It was exactly what I needed to hear. It stopped me blaming myself for things going wrong. The simple fact was, he was a twat. I was free to replan my thought and stop trying to fix it. If a friend said 'what about your poor son putting up with this', they were right too. I needed a kick up the backside and stop wallowing in what has happened to my wonderful relationship. I needed to think of my son and get the hell out of it. I did.