Thoughts on physically moving a child

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What are your thoughts on physically moving a child who is misbehaving?

Situation is an 8 year old who is being repeatedly rude and has been asked to stop. Given a warning that if they continue they will need to go into a separate room for a talk (they had a friend over at the time). Rudeness continues so child is then picked up to be taken into different room. Child struggles and is then put on floor (gently). During the subsequent conversation they say that their neck was hurt when being carried (due to their struggling). The adult apologises for that and has the conversation about their behaviour.

I wouldn’t apologise for the pretend injury

I'd be having a big think as to why my 8 year olds behaviour is so horrendous. The child needed to be moved and I wouldn't be apologising. It's absurd that the adult apologised.

No I don’t think I would pick up a stroppy 8 year old, particularly in front of their friend.

I would (and did) do it with over-stimulated toddlers to get them safely to a quiet area to calm down, but by 8 I think their sense of independence would render picking them up more antagonistic and add to their poor behaviour rather than reducing it.

I would have considered asking the friend to leave the room though, if the misbehaving child had refused.

I don't think it's appropriate in this situation.

If they were being physically problematic in some way then yes, but verbally no.

Yes - I can see that it would have been better to ask the friend to leave the room instead of physically removing the child.

No more friends over till they learn how to behave.

When mine were smaller if they were overwhelmed, I'd physically move them into their room to give them a quiet space to calm down. But the problem with physically moving them when they're older is it becomes about the location (which room should they be in) rather than about their behaviour.
I also wouldn't physically move them in front of a friend.