Nearly three years ago DH started snoring a lot. I was being woken every 20 minutes or so and was on my knees with exhaustion. After 18 months of it getting worse we bought a second bed and started sleeping separately because I couldn't take it anymore, although it was me that took the spare room initially. We swapped a few months later because I wasn't sleeping in the spare room either. I then settled into a regular sleep routine and that was from last summer.
In between all that he was back and forth from the doctors, diagnosed with a deviated septum, and earlier this year, finally had it operated on.
His snoring has pretty much stopped now, he doesn't get infections every two minutes, so we've been trying to bed share again. Unfortunately night time anxiety kicks in for me and I just lie there, wide awake until the early hours when he reluctantly slopes off to the spare room again. Every little snuffle, I'm just waiting for the snoring to start. How on earth do I break this cycle? I normally have good sleep hygiene, regular bed time and wake time, no caffeine, screens etc. I've tried a myriad of things, many in desperation, from going to bed exhausted to the point I'm asleep on the sofa by 8pm, drinking large amounts of alcohol (I got 45 minutes and then was awake again), and last night I tried Nytol (the antihistamine one). Nothing works, I just lie there. Nytol was the worst, I was on the precipice of sleep all night but every time I started to actually fall asleep I would wake again. Even after DH went to the spare room at 2am I tossed and turned for the rest of the night.
I just want something that will knock me out to get over the initial few nights but I need to be able to function as we have busy lives.
Has anyone been through this?