After 18 years of marriage I am finally accepting that it is never going to work. My husband just can’t be the husband or friend that I want or need. (We have long suspected he has autism but he is not diagnosed). He is capable of showing interest, affection and love but he regularly slides back into his default mode of just being blank. I am so desperately, desperately lonely. The only reason I don’t leave is that it wouldn’t make any difference whether we were together or apart: I would still have no one. At least together, the kids benefit from our combined income and have a comfortable lifestyle.
What I wanted to ask is, is there anyone on here who has continued to be married and live in the same house as their husband even after the relationship has more or less ended? I’m wondering how sustainable it is to just ignore him for the rest of my life and live my life as though he doesn’t exist. I’m 37.