Just felt in need of a feel-good thread! I'd love to know what it is about your partner that makes you love them – the top five qualities (physical or otherwise!) that make them the one for you.
Here's mine to get us started. I've been with DP for about a year.
- He is absolutely and completely trustworthy. He is the most straightforward, honest person I've ever met. Sometimes that is very annoying (he doesn't really do comforting white lies!) but mostly it is incredibly reassuring.
- He handles my widowed status with aplomb. DH died three years ago and DP is so understanding about it – lets me cry when I need to, is happy to talk about him, doesn't mind at all that I will always have pictures up etc etc. Recently he was helping me clear out my old house and we found a big felt map that I'd bought for DH – we'd put pins in all the places that we'd been. I said I didn't know what to do with it, that it felt weird putting it up and leaving it half-finished, like a relic, but that they were my memories too. DP said "Why don't we put it up and start adding the places we go together in a different colour of pin?" I just thought that was the perfect illustration of how much he understands that my life with DH will always be a part of me and never feels threatened by that.
- He's great with my kid. He hasn't forced a relationship, he's just been patient and let her come to him at her own pace. The worst thing about being widowed, by far, is DH not being here to see DD grow up, and DD not having her Daddy. I'll never not mourn that. But getting to watch DP and DD grow to love each other has been a real privilege and one I could never have imagined would feel this good.
- He has overcome SO much trauma and a genuinely difficult start in life. It's really admirable how hard he's worked to build a life for himself despite it all.
- His butt looks like it's carved from marble. Literally like the Statue of David, it's insane. His body in general is basically ideal for me, but his bum is particularly special. Like, it should be in art galleries, it's so good.
He's not perfect (don't get me started on his lack of ability to express his emotions...!) but these qualities are so wonderful that it more than makes up for it. He's just bloody great.
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