How often is usual to see a new date?

[Dotandtime]

We're not really dating ATM, friends who meet up maybe once a month and have the odd text exchange in-between, but there is increasingly becoming a frisson 😆

We're both 50s, busy lives with friends, work, adult children, hobbies and volunteering.

Even if we did move things on a bit I don't know how we'd fit each other in.

We've both created busy lives for ourselves when life didn't work out the way we planned. I can't speak for him, but I wouldn't be keen to let all the things that have got me through difficult times go for man. Does that just mean I'm not that bothered about him?

You're being a bit all-or-nothing - if this is creeping along, then let it creep and see what happens. You don't have to map out now what it'll be like, or decide how you balance your time/interests in the (still hypothetical) longer term

But if you really can't see a future when you're seeing him one a week and maybe sometimes at weekends (or having weekends away) then no, you're not really available for anything other than FWB

Oh absolutely. Actually the reason I'm thinking about it is we do have a weekend away coming up. If "something" is going to happen, I guess it will be then.

But I wonder if it's unfair to start something I don't want to develop very much. FWB probably would suit me in lots of ways, don't really want a serious relationship, except that sex is quite an emotional thing for me and I don't think I'd manage not being exclusive very well 😆