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Noisy Neighbour, possible DV

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FFSshutyourpiehole · 30/06/2023 05:24

We have a neighbour, female, who seems to be struggling. She has a year 7 son and is divorced. The son seems very troubled and has started to behave badly, swearing, refusing to get in the car for the school run etc. This coincided with her moving a guy in. It’s obvious to us that much of the root cause of the son’s behaviour is due to the huge change in his living environment, he just seems angry all the time.

Since last summer there have been non-stop arguments, shouting and disturbances. It was so bad one night that I called the safeguarding team at the LA. While I was in the phone to them the police arrived, called by an unknown neighbour, so they advised me to call 999 and say there were officers on scene and to tell them what we’d seen and heard. They called me back to say that she had downplayed it but that they would be contacting the LA.

Since then it’s got worse, nearly every morning her and the child scream and swear at each other, and she’s often telling the guy to ‘get the fuck out of my house’. She clearly isn’t coping and I’m concerned about the child. To be honest, I’m not actually sure who the aggressor is but it’s totally toxic.

Yesterday she was screaming and shouting virtually all day, and once again the police were called. We could hear what she was saying on the doorstep to them as our windows were open, it was a load of minimising horseshit. The child was at school when all this happened.

I’m really concerned about this child and his environment. He is at the age where his behaviour could worsen to the extent that it affects his life going forward. The mother and her partner both have a disability which affects communication so I don’t think they realise how loud all this is, and that it’s being played out to the whole street. The partner is non verbal but signs. I’m really not sure what else we (neighbours) can do but to keep calling this in. It’s a quiet street usually and this person works in education, so certainly knows how to get help.

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FFSshutyourpiehole · 30/06/2023 05:25

Forgot to add, should I make another safeguarding call today or will the police have done this?

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DustyLee123 · 30/06/2023 05:28

Yes, report report report.
Do you know which school the child is at ? If so I’d ring and ask to speak to the safeguarding lead there and report there too. You could also contact the school nurse.

FFSshutyourpiehole · 30/06/2023 05:35

Thank you! My youngest went to the same school so I know some of the staff. I think I know the very person to email. I wasn’t sure it was the right thing to do but you’ve reassured me.

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DustyLee123 · 30/06/2023 05:37

Yes, please protect the child. And be sure to tell them about the change happening around the time the partner moved in.

GoodChat · 30/06/2023 06:05

Report every incident OP.

FFSshutyourpiehole · 30/06/2023 06:10

I will, thanks. I told the LA this last summer, and that they would ‘lose’ him unless they acted quickly. The way I see it, there is a really small window to get him the help he needs before his behaviour gets so bad he has some kind of record. I’m not sure which adult is the issue here, the partner always looks a bit confused and the woman shrieks threats at him constantly. She seems so angry and frustrated all the time. The whole thing is played out in front of the whole street as they always have doors and windows open. I’m obviously not the only concerned neighbour as others have called the police. No idea who, or I would discuss it with them.

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EllaRaines · 30/06/2023 09:57

I would also tell her that the screaming rows are unacceptable.

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