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Would you keep working?

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FrogandToadAreFriends · 29/06/2023 13:35

In this scenario:

If your partner got a very BIG job, that meant a huge annual income but you didn't yet have "fuck you money" in the bank, would you continue working? In this hypothetical, going part time in your current role isn't a possibility. You feel solid about your partners future prospects and solid in your relationship, of course, life is unpredictable! Curious what folks would do if they didn't "have" to work but weren't necessarily set for life, if that makes sense.

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xogossipgirlxo · 29/06/2023 13:45

Yes, at least until we worked out how we want to shape our live from now on. Do you have little kids in childcare, do you like your job at all? I may sound weird, but I said to my husband that if we ever won lottery, we would leave the UK but I would eat everything what we have in cupboards and in the fridge so we don’t forget where we came from😂 I would probably do the same in your situation- keep my current job, to cool down, so you can make plans with clear mind. Congratulations on your partner’s job btw. 👏🏻

mrsneate · 29/06/2023 13:47

I've been in/ currently in, this position. Not yet married. Although I have dropped my hours to 30 a week. I wouldn't want to not work.

My job is horrific atm. Currently off sick with anxiety and stress around work and my DP is telling me I don't need to continue, it's a very intense high pressured job. Doesn't pay great either (nicu nurse)

However, it took my 5 years of studying to get the very much wanted career and I won't give it up because things are shit atm in that job.

Gateappreciation · 29/06/2023 13:51

Yes, keep working for at least two years, as he’ll have more job security after two years. Plus will then have savings built up.

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piglet81 · 29/06/2023 13:53

Partner or spouse? What housing/financial/child-rearing situation? What provisions would you have if partner died/fell ill/lost this massive job?

Personally I can’t imagine wanting to give up work and completely depend on anyone else (even though I am fairly happily married…) but everyone’s different. I would want to have a clearly thought out exit plan at the very least.

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FrogandToadAreFriends · 29/06/2023 14:27

Lots of pragmatism! This is my approach too. Spouse and yes a young child in childcare though we like our childcare arrangements, I would be interested to hear from people without kids too though, they don't stay little for long! In this scenario let's say you like your job most days, love it some days and hate it other days. Also it's work and of course can be a bit of a drudgery at least part of the time.

In my case I have worked very hard and earned extra degree/qualification and I'm in a fairly senior role in a lowish paying profession. I'm proud of what I do! But...

I would also eat absolutely everything in the pantry if we won the lotto, I can't bear to waste food!

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johnnydeppsslipper · 29/06/2023 14:55

Mmmm

Maybe keep
Working to build up that emergency fund of your own op while the child care is still there.

And then maybe re investigate options.

I'd loathe to be reliant on any other human being but that's just me.

I know that if anything happened between me and dp me and the dc would be financially absolutely fine because I have a back up and can continue to provide what's needed.

Beezknees · 29/06/2023 15:02

Absolutely, yes. You never know what's around the corner and as a lone parent I know that all too well.

Peanutbutteryday · 29/06/2023 16:19

I’d probably drop down to three days a week to keep foot in door while I work out what to do long term - but also allows me greater flexibility to do some bits I want to on my days off

BigFatLiar · 29/06/2023 16:25

In my case I have worked very hard and earned extra degree/qualification and I'm in a fairly senior role in a lowish paying profession. I'm proud of what I do! But...

If you enjoy your job why would you pack it in? You'll still need to fill in the time so why not keep on doing something you enjoy.

RosieandJimbo · 29/06/2023 16:28

Yes without a shadow of doubt, you never know. I'd build up my own emergency fund. Maybe I'm just a pessimist who's been badly burned.

codegeass · 29/06/2023 16:30

Not working (*changes voice, coughs a few times) in "this" economy? Yeah, not sure if I can vouch that that'll be the right move overall...

lastminutewednesday · 29/06/2023 16:34

If married I'd work part time in a job I like rather than full time in one I hate but which pays a lot.

jojo2202 · 29/06/2023 16:37

I've been married 21 years. i don't have my own money. We both work and earn equal amounts in good paying jobs. ( i only work 3 days a week at present and earn same as him doing full time) It all goes into one pot. We have both earned different amounts throughout our marriage and have never once thought of a "fuck you pot" If we ever did divorce we would just split everything, i actually wouldn't need to work but i enjoy my days out of the house and the company of my colleagues.

YaWeeSkitter · 29/06/2023 17:02

I would continue to work even with no children to consider.
I think I would enjoy my job more in the safe knowledge that I could up and leave at the drop of a hat.
I have always had a 'running away fund ' which is actually quite a small amount but I tend to use it as blow money for my own use. Things like weekends away with the girls / buying unnecessary things off amazon 😊

mrsneate · 29/06/2023 17:08

FrogandToadAreFriends · 29/06/2023 14:27

Lots of pragmatism! This is my approach too. Spouse and yes a young child in childcare though we like our childcare arrangements, I would be interested to hear from people without kids too though, they don't stay little for long! In this scenario let's say you like your job most days, love it some days and hate it other days. Also it's work and of course can be a bit of a drudgery at least part of the time.

In my case I have worked very hard and earned extra degree/qualification and I'm in a fairly senior role in a lowish paying profession. I'm proud of what I do! But...

I would also eat absolutely everything in the pantry if we won the lotto, I can't bear to waste food!

My DC are older now. Don't need me at home 24/7

(21, 17 and 13!)

I'd get bored I think!

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