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Was my cousin overreacting when I took his charger or is he just a bad person?

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endingupinmanchester · 28/06/2023 22:52

I knew him my whole life. We live near each other. I then took his charger without asking bc I was in a rush and forgot. I then apologised and gave it back.

Since then he has been very angry with me and claims that I made him feel 'unsafe' and betrayed. He also told he hopes that someone robs me and invades my home.

Why does he feel so angry even after I apologised? I understand that if we weren't very close, but we are related and knew each other for a long time.
Why would he throw away a long relationship over a charger that cost less than 20 pounds?

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mdinbc · 28/06/2023 22:58

Where did you take his charger from? Did he leave it at your house?

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00100001 · 28/06/2023 23:00

What were the circumstances of the stealing?

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BonnieGlasses · 28/06/2023 23:00

You again?! Is your cousin by any chance an accountant at one of the Big 4?

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endingupinmanchester · 28/06/2023 23:02

mdinbc · 28/06/2023 22:58

Where did you take his charger from? Did he leave it at your house?

No, it was his house

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determinedtomakethiswork · 28/06/2023 23:05

How long did you have his charger for?

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Lesina · 28/06/2023 23:07

He is a lunatic

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WTFAreYouForReal · 28/06/2023 23:30

People that take, touch, use, move, use or even look at other people's chargers deserve to have their hands chopped off.

He is not bring unreasonable op.

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BeautBastard · 28/06/2023 23:49

How long did you have the charger for? Maybe it was very stressful for him not being able to find it or work out why it was gone, whilst his phone was either running low or flat. Most people are very attached to their phones/devices and need them for work etc. Surely you can see that you taking something from his home, that he was definitely going to need soon, was not a very nice or thoughtful thing to do? Why would you just help yourself like that in the first place? Please bear in mind he may see it differently, and that you just threw away a long relationship over a charger!

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NoSquirrels · 28/06/2023 23:51

You took it from his house without his permission aka you stole it.

Why did you do that over a charger that costs less than £20?

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mdinbc · 30/06/2023 21:32

If it was in his house, you have no right to take anything without permission. You shouldn't be in his house without permission.

Even if you are related, and have an open-door policy with each other, there are boundaries, and personal belongings fall within that boundary.

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SausageinaBun · 30/06/2023 21:35

I think your question is flawed. You suggest that he is either overreacting or a bad person. But maybe you're the one in the wrong and he is neither overreacting or a bad person.

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Whendoesmydietstart · 30/06/2023 21:39

As someone with teenagers knows, when someone takes the only charger you have left (because they have "lost" all of the others in their bedrooms) you have a short amount of time before your phone becomes useless. I don't know how you can pick up someone else's charger from their home by accident.

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ThreeRingCircus · 30/06/2023 21:40

You took it from his house without his permission aka you stole it.

Well, this. I'm not surprised he's angry with you and can't trust you.....you nick things!

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speluncean · 30/06/2023 21:41

I can't be doing with people who take my chargers. I have chargers in my house where I sit. And at the side of my bed. And where I need them. They're not there for people to "borrow" (DD I'm looking at you). It does my head in.

And yes it's only £20 but he won't have had a charger when he needed one. Your poor planning doesn't give you the right to take his charger without asking.

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Devastateddaughter · 30/06/2023 21:45

I absolutely lose my shit if dd 'borrows' my charger.

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Sirzy · 30/06/2023 21:46

So you stole his charger and he is the one in the wrong?

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Daffodilwoman · 30/06/2023 21:50

I agree with others. I gave charges in set places, they NEVER leave those designated places. If anyone ever asks to use my charges they can, but the charger stays where it is. Under no circumstances will I slow them to move the charger.

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HunkaMunkasslipper · 30/06/2023 22:14

'I then took his charger without asking bc I was in a rush and forgot. '

Forgot what? Why would you take someone's charger due to being in a rush? I don't understand.

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LauraNicolaides · 30/06/2023 22:20

Was my cousin overreacting when I took his charger or is he just a bad person?

Known as a false dichotomy. Are you a thief or are you just selfish?

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Thepossibility · 30/06/2023 23:03

Did you take his charger or just use it while in the home?
You're in the wrong if you took it.
He's overreacting if it didn't leave the premises.

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