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Do you find it hard to feel truly happy?

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captainsandyscrew · 27/06/2023 17:03

I have literally everything I wished my heart out for 10 years ago when I was a young single mum struggling with two jobs. I have a senior career I love, a wonderful marriage with someone I'm deeply in love with, a happily blended family, a gorgeous bonny baby, a beautiful home we bought together.

If I'd have known back then that this was to be my life I would have been bowled over.

Is it weird that I very rarely feel totally completely utterly happy? I spend way too much time dwelling on small worries and allowing anxieties to take over my thoughts. And almost feel I am 'undeserving' of all the wonderful things I have. Am also knackered all the time which doesn't help (see: baby).

I am still recovering from an abusive relationship 5 years ago in which one of the things I was repeatedly told was that I was nothing and would never know happiness so I'm sure part of that plays a part, as I'm sure post-partum hormones do too, but is this otherwise a 'normal' emotion to feel?

I feel I need to maybe begin a gratitude practice and to start practicing mindfulness, but has anyone any other tips on how I can start bloody letting myself feel and enjoy all the happiness in my life?

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missbunnyrabbit · 27/06/2023 17:05

I don't think many people are truly happy. Most people have worries or insecurities.

captainsandyscrew · 27/06/2023 17:29

True... I wish it was easier to compartmentalize the worries and struggles we rationally know we won't care about in years to come and truly live in the day for the happiness we have

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123bumblebee · 27/06/2023 17:32

I am the same. I wish I could go forwards in a Time Machine and find out we are ok in retirement. I worry constantly about my job security, mortgage, money and losing everything and struggle to enjoy life because of worrying about saving every penny and “making hay while the sun shines”. I just have an overwhelming feeling of doom that I am not supposed to have a nice life and this wonderful life I have is just a trick and will all fall to pieces.

captainsandyscrew · 27/06/2023 18:21

@123bumblebee absolutely that! I feel that in any moment someone will pop up and say "HAH! Big joke - this isn't supposed to be your life"

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