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I hate being a mum right now

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AmIAwfulForThis · 27/06/2023 03:29

I love my son more than anything else but dear lord I hate being a mum at the moment. I'm not good at it at all. His father is a fucking useless. He has fought me to have him 50/50 but does nothing of the sort. I have to fight for everything. My son has ASC. He is non verbal and a whirlwind.

He isn't going to bed at the moment until late and then he gets into bed with me in the night. I'm constantly being touched.

During the evening I'm pulled places and I have to guess what he wants/needs. He and I both get frustrated when I get it wrong. Tonight he went to bed at a reasonable hour. My punishment for this is he has been awake since 2 am and constantly laughing at me and touching me. I just want to sleep and be left alone.

I know I sound fucking awful but honestly I just need a break. I'm fucking fat and ugly and miserable. I just want to be able to live a normal life where I can enjoy parenthood how my peers do rather than the constant battle I have. It's so lovely to spend time with children you can have a conversation with.

Obviously I love my son. I love spending time with him and he is the most sweetest adorable little boy. He genuinely puts a smile on most people's faces with his energy and enthusiasm for running. But sometimes it gets really lonely talking to him and getting absolutely nothing back.

I would give anything though for him to speak or understand me properly and for the love of God I wish he would stop touching me at 3 in the morning.

During the day I can manage and cope with how I'm feeling. In the late evening and night I just want to run away and sleep in peace.

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RubaiyatOfAnyone · 27/06/2023 04:00

Oh you poor thing, that sounds fucking hard.
sleep deprivation is the absolute worst - it cruelly makes things so much harder to deal with. I once got told at work that there are only two states - on top of things (in which case everything seems easy) and overwhelmed (when everything seems impossible). Sleep deprivation makes it practically impossible to be on top of things.

I don’t have any advice that makes things easier, but i wanted to say i have so much sympathy and admiration. You are coping with something incredibly hard and - during the day - coping well. Everybody on earth would feel like you do at 3.30am. I so hope it gets better for you both - either with time, or with some sleep regulating medicine for your son, and you get to enjoy your time with him. Unmumsnetty hugs.

Worriedmama82 · 27/06/2023 04:03

No advice just sending hugs and it sounds very very hard. My daughter is currently non verbal due to a rare genetic condition but I pray every day she will learn to talk and it is possible with her condition. I hope you get a break soon and that you get the support you and your son both need

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