How much time do your 8/9 year olds spend in their room?

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Over the last year, I've noticed that DS (now almost 9) spends is more happy with his own company and there isn't the endless stream of chatter like there used to be. He does spend a fair amount of time in the same room as us (not necessarily always interacting with us though) but also increasing amounts of time in his room, writing/drawing/playing etc. I must admit I do feel like I miss his company a bit at times, so was wondering how normal this is? We still read books together at bedtime, but he's happy for me to read a chapter and then be done, whereas a year ago he would be asking for more every night.

My 9 year old DD spends a lot of her free time in her room, if she is down stairs she is usually on her computer chatting to friends (not allowed computer upstairs) she enjoys her own company and likes to make videos, draw, paint etc on her own..
I miss her constantly being attached to my hip but she is growing up now and I respect she needs her own space..
We do have meal times together, and Sunday evenings she doesn't have her computer we spend that time watching movies etc.. she also does enjoy playing out in the garden with me and her dsis so during the summer she's not so much of a hobbit 😂

None, she is always with us, although has periods in her playroom at the weekend. But midweek we are all together, we engage the kids though as I don't want them upstairs doing god knows what when they are at an age to have mobiles etc..

I never see my just turned 10 year old.

He likes to code games and play online with his friends. He comes down for dinner and the odd hour here and there.

My almost 10 year old DD spends minimal time in her room. She's always with us, near us. Loves to read, craft, draw, sometimes on the kitchen table sometimes in the lounge.

We got her a desk for her bedroom and at the time I told DH it was pointless as she wouldn't want to be away from us...so far she has never sat at it once.

She's great company so I'm enjoying it whilst it lasts...

At that age, ds spent loads of time in his room, he was either playing with his Lego, playing on his games console, watching television, spending time with his hamster or reading. He usually spent more time in Winter & during dark nights, he was happy with his own company. Normally once he had his tea & did any homework like spellings or reading, he would disappear & leave me to do things like organise his clothes & packed lunch for the day after & settle down to watch television or read. I always went up to my room once he had got in bed & watched soaps or read as being a single parent it was lonely downstairs on my own.

V normal in my experience. My DDs are 15 and 12 and from around age 8 they got a lot better at entertaining themselves and over the years their interests moved towards reading (DD2) and listening to music (DD1) which they do in their rooms for most of their free time. Even things like baking which we used to do together DD2 can do on her own.

I remember feeling like you though as it was a noticeable difference all of a sudden from when they were younger and we spent pretty much all time together.

At 8-9, only for sleeping. All the tech is downstairs, plus interesting snacks and a sibling to plague.

9/10 year old - spends very little time in her room, prob about half an hour before bed, maybe a little more on a wknd listening to music. She just wants to be with us all the time.

I wouldn’t allow this.

It's one thing allowing time alone, but not hiding away (addicted to) on the computer permanently.

It does sound like it's variable then. We don't have tech in his room, so in some ways when he is upstairs it is more of a "healthy" environment, whereas downstairs he has access to tech, so I guess that is one silver lining.