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Do you have any minor one that got away/what if type regrets?

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FlyMeToTheSpoons · 26/06/2023 16:16

Not necessarily the love of your life passing you by, more a low key ’I wish I'd done him/her that when I had the chance’ sort of thing.

I'm very happily married and have been for over 20 years, just need to make that absolutely clear! Definitely nobody I'd rather be with than DH.

However.

In the mid 90s I used to work and socialise with lots of Britpop bands. One evening I got talking to a member of a band who were very well known at the time (and still are). He was fascinating and gorgeous and we chatted for ages. He asked me if I wanted to go back to his and I said no, mainly because I didn't want to be seen as a groupie or whatever. We had a little kiss though and parted on friendly terms. I left London very shortly after, so never saw him again. Then I met DH and lived happily ever after.

Over the years his band have continued to be very much in the public eye and very occasionally I had the odd twinge, nothing major. However DH is a huge fan of his band (he knows I used to vaguely know him but not that he 'propositioned' me) and a few weeks ago we went to see them. And ended up standing right in front of him! I look soooo different now and even if he saw me he wouldn't have recognised me, even if he remembers me, which I very much doubt. But oh my god. I couldn't help thinking how thick I was to turn him down - I highly doubt it would've become anything long term and I wouldn't have wanted it to because if it had I wouldn't have met DH or had the DC. But. Even it had been a one night thing. What a nice, fun memory that would've been. Dammit.

Anyone else have any similar low-key regrets?!

OP posts:
FlyMeToTheSpoons · 27/06/2023 19:28

Just me then?!

OP posts:
Xeren · 27/06/2023 23:06

I was reminiscing about all the parties and festivals I went to when I was younger. I just wished I was less self-conscious and more confident and friendly. There were guys I turned down simply because I was too shy!

I also wish I was more emotionally mature when I was younger; a more loving friend and not so quick to cut people off (a self-defence mechanism). I miss a lot of old friends and sometimes wonder what could have been made more of an effort to keep in touch.

I also wish I was more clear on what I wanted as a career when I was younger and aimed for that.

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