What was the straw that broke the camels back?

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Today it's the unwashed mugs left on the side right next to a full bowl of hot washing up water. Like a big FUCK YOU to me, I've asked no less than 10 times if there's water in there at least put stuff in to soak but don't just leave right next to it!
This is just a drop in the ocean with his lazy behaviour. Others include leaving shit streaked on the toilet and thinking its funny, fucking off into the bath for an hour while I was bottles, wash up, make his packed lunch, make the tea and iron. He doesn't get why I'm fucked off and not spoken all day.

Pretend he doesn't live there. And do fuck all for him. Not a jot. Concentrate on your baby and yourself... And make plans to separate..

Do yours and baby's stuff. Stop cooking /washing etc plan days out alone.

His washing today has been plonked on the bed, including all socks and pants and which I'd normally fold, mine and babies stuff is still downstairs which I will iron.

It's a start but not one that he'll probably even notice.

Stop making his packed lunches and don’t iron any of his clothes.
I’m astonished that women make packed lunches for their husbands like they’re schoolkids.

Oh he fucking will because they'll stay there, as will the cup that tipped ne over the edge.

Why the hell do you make him packed lunches 😮

Are you from the fifties?

I stopped a couple of years ago and made him do them himself and started telling him to prep bits for tea while I was at they gym , now he watches baby while I'm there, that's it, he does put him to bed while I'm there, but the rest he'll spend staring at his phone.

Sorry to add, since I've been on maternity he's stopped doing his sandwiches and helping with tea, he'll make bottles, etc, feed baby but intimately I do most stuff

Would you expect him to make your sandwiches if he wasn't working?

He has had 6 stints out of work in 11 years, 3 by his own doing ( sacked 1, walked out 2) and people at my work just couldn't fathom that he didn't have my tea ready wheni get home, he did do the ironing though, but I'd have to tell him to clean bathroom etc

He sounds like a knob, sorry. I don't know how you can put up with it

The other night I was pissed off with it all, so being quiet, he wanted a cuddle in bed, I said well you don't normally, he stopped being cuddly like that no long after baby was born, so we had a little cuddle, I was drifting off so said night and rolled over, he was miffed because obviously he thought he'd get sex. NOPE!
Sorry I'm drip feeding but I cant remember it all in one go.

Being a lazy, dirty, abusive twat for years. Got up with the kids whilst he lied in as usual.
He had changed mine and the childrens netflix profile names to rat, parasite and cunt. The kids seen it. I threw him out.

Seriously, just leave. There is no reason to spend your life with someone that doesn’t respect you.

You are worth more - show your child that you are worth more and show them what respect in a healthy relationship looks like. This is the single best thing you can do for yourself and your child.

Leave him. Its less hassle doing it on your own without a lazy btd in the house. You do it all anyway. At least have a safe and calm home free from his moods and filth

I wouldn't cook or wash for him. It's obviously not appreciated anyway.
You are being taken for a mug.

Sorry this is happening to you. Read this

https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/12188842/wife-divorce-dishes-by-sink/

Wouldnt usually link the Sun but it is a good write up of his book.

I think it would be different if they equally contributed, but this guy is just so not worth it. Would get proper telling off from me for shitmarks alone. What a disgusting twat, no one wants to see your shit 😤

Mine was realising I was ready to die because I couldn't cope anymore. I managed to shake some sense into myself to realise I needed to see GP for medication. Then I realised I was going to medicate myself just so I could stay married. I nearly ended up having a breakdown because the enormity of that realisation was almost beyond my comprehension.

Still here, still married, but quietly planning. Planning helps to keep me sane when it gets bad.

Yes, I have a little secret nest egg and add to it all the time, I return to work next week part time, but also have a little side hustle online, I'm very savvy, I'm not reliant on a man for anything.

I've been at work from 9am - 5pm, no problem with that. Dh has gone to London to meet his buddies for pie & mash before going drinking till about 8.30pm.

He has not done any washing up from the items he has used, or brought the washing in (that I put out last night) which is so dry it is like cardboard or run the hoover around.

When I ask him later when he is half cut, he will say you never told me to do the jobs. I despair, does anyone tell me to do the jobs .......No they don't, it is called using your pea brain - IDIOT

This is exactly what I get, he'll wash up after tea but it will be the 2 plates and knives and forks, no pans, trays etc, I dread getting up in the morning to deal with it all whilst making babies breakfast

OP you really do need to leave him asap.

Start planning that and start another thread for advice if needed.

This one is just a total dickhead.