Zero motivation for anything at all

[SoWhatEh]

i have no idea what to do with myself. Unless there is something I have to be doing, I've been lying flat out on the sofa for weeks feeling...nothing. I have zero motivation for anything at all. I used to work out a lot. I got out of the habit last summer when I had a temp job away from home and my normal classes, and never really got back into it. I have put on weight. I feel quite tired and weak most of the time. I have a part time job (that I really enjoy) that is sometimes busy and sometimes very quiet. right now it's quiet, I'm not needed, so I'm home alone. I could garden, work out, declutter, read books, see friends and more. But all I do is MN or phone games or occasionally watch TV. I used to be quite toned but I can actually feel the rolls of fat resting on top of each other now when I move, because of this inactivity.

I'm 59, went through the menopause 4 years ago and felt better after it than before. i had 4 half-hour NHS counselling sessions to try to tackle it but they were pretty useless, with a sweet 20-something trainee who just read from a script.

Today DH poured himself a glass of wine and didn't offer me one (he does this sort of thing a lot - clears his plate but not mine whereas I automatically include him) When I said something he was very defensive and I just raged inside at his inability to own up to being thoughtless and selfish. I can barely bring myself to speak to him, which I know is an overreaction, but I just can't be arsed to pander to his self-image of Mr Perfect when he's not. (Nor am I, but I judge myself when I behave like a selfish tosser whereas he thinks he's Golden Boy.) I'm just mentioning this because it feels like part of the problem. I have literally been lying down on the sofa for almost five weeks now except for pre-planned outings and the odd few hours of work (also from home, so no exercise or face to face - all Zoom)

i want to be enthusiastic but I'm just not. Nothing motivates me. I think: I wish I were fit again but I won't go back to classes or even out for a walk on a sunny day. Any idea what I can do to bust out of this?

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Have a discussion with your doctor - they may want to run some blood tests to see if there are any deficiencies. Are you on HRT? I will be honest with you ageing is tiring ! I'm older than you and tired most of the day! You may be a bit down and benefit from a little help eg meds as sometimes the brain gets to a point where it cannot rev itself up of its own accord. I find that some GPs are very helpful today with these situations. I also believe lockdown thrust many of us into a different life - we were plodding along fine then bam and before you knew it you had gone from several times a week exercise to nothing. I'm 3 years older than I was ( as we all are) and just seem to have slid down the hill to inactivity. My mind just can't be bothered and I'm not the only one of my friends like this. As for your husband well how was it before you felt like this?

Sometimes you just need to take action and be disciplined. Motivation is a by product of action. It's unlikely to come first.

Good luck.

@hollyblueivy what you say is true. it's just how to start when there seems to be a lock on the just-start-anyway level of low motivation.

@ItsOnlyMeNow LIke you, I find that post-lockdown I am so much less motivated, far less sociable. Could just be aging but I think it's habit too. I am now used to going for days, weeks even, barely seeing another person. except DH (DC are young adults and have left home.)