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Do you think Facebook is fake?

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shirtsclarts · 23/06/2023 15:44

I'm not sure why I'm still on it but I am.
My ex was a huge narcissist (I know that gets thrown around a lot but he was cruel and sadistic )
He never would really post much to social media.
I deleted him off all social media but we have mutual acquaintances on there.
I see him on there with posts tagging his friends with pics of his new Girlfriend and changing his profile pic all the time to lovey dovey pics.
When all the time to me he was cruel etc etc
Now it seems like that's different and he is this all loving man (how it changed in a year il never know )
He previously told me (when we met ) he used social media to make his ex jealous too.
Do you think all the lovey dovey pics etc are real? Not just him but Facebook in general
My heart sinks Everytime I see him

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shirtsclarts · 23/06/2023 18:06

I meant all the people who process undying love on Facebook or the ones who change their profile pic every week to a coupley one etc

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Outofthepark · 23/06/2023 18:39

For rheb

Geo42 · 23/06/2023 18:42

Sounds to me like you are jealous? Ignore him and move on.

Outofthepark · 23/06/2023 18:43

Sorry not sure what that was!

OP it's just an app, delete the bloody thing and stop torturing yourself.

Swansandcustard · 23/06/2023 18:47

boboshmobo · 23/06/2023 15:58

Why on earth are you following him , remove him or hide him at least

Yes it's fake , people don't post their shit lives do they .. the post the best bits so it's a snapshot without the bad parts

This every day

cassiatwenty · 23/06/2023 18:48

shirtsclarts · 23/06/2023 18:06

I meant all the people who process undying love on Facebook or the ones who change their profile pic every week to a coupley one etc

Profess *

Youknowaboutthepaint · 23/06/2023 18:51

I think it depends entirely on who you have on there.

My FB friends are all people I know and like. Some admittedly I've lost touch with IRL, but they're all people I'd be pleased to bump into.

I don't recognise the fakeness and bragging that people complain of. I'm sure my friends post more about their good days than their bad, but it all seems genuine and kind to me.

If someone does start with those kinds of posts I unfollow them. FB is a happy friendly place for me, where I get to keep in touch with people from years back and stay up to date with what's going on in my community.

I'd unfriend your ex and that's problem solved.

cassiatwenty · 23/06/2023 18:56

Whether real or not, you are comparing your entire day to 20 seconds of someone's highlight reel when that pic was taken. That's not good for your MH. Let the sleeping dogs lie.

CeciNestPasUnPipi · 23/06/2023 18:58

Deleting is not the same as blocking. You can easily block him from his name next time he's tagged on your timeline. It really is that simple - unless it isn't.

PollyAmour · 23/06/2023 19:16

My facebook is a combination of photo storage and a way of keeping up with friends and family I don't see regularly. I only have people on there I actually know, and I do block people who post anything remotely bigoted.
I would hope to never portray my life as perfect, but on the other hand, I don't post negative stuff, like bad days at work, low mood, arguments with DH etc - doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

SistersNotCisters · 23/06/2023 19:22

My dad was a complete shit and physically abused my mum. He never so much as raised his voice to his last wife. Could be real, could be bullshit. It completely depends on the situation.

UsingChangeofName · 23/06/2023 22:57

shirtsclarts · 23/06/2023 18:06

I meant all the people who process undying love on Facebook or the ones who change their profile pic every week to a coupley one etc

Well, I don't have anyone like that on my Facebook, which once again, takes us back to the 'It's not Facebook, it is the people (and groups) you have in your feed.

As others have said, I am Facebook friends with people who are already my friends in real life. Some of them I see often, some I just keep in touch with through Facebook, a couple live on the other side of the world.
It is up to every Facebook user to choose how they use Facebook and who they see things from.
So, no, I repeat, it isn't Facebook that is fake.

RedHelenB · 24/06/2023 06:55

SistersNotCisters · 23/06/2023 19:22

My dad was a complete shit and physically abused my mum. He never so much as raised his voice to his last wife. Could be real, could be bullshit. It completely depends on the situation.

This. To properly move on yoy need to accept that he might well be happy, have a wonderful life etc. But what matters is that you're free now and there's nothing in the way to stop you having the same. Block him.

Theunamedcat · 24/06/2023 07:19

This is what my ex and his fiance would do to "get back at her" (ie me)

Post publicly holidays day trips "new" cars they announced their engagement at LEAST once a month twice if I pissed them off there was an engagement photo taken in a place he and I used to go (which I introduced him too he used to joke and say it was "our spot") everything designed to hurt went public and joint friends were tagged at first joint friends told me their first engagement for example coincides with him stopping child support but it quickly became apparent he was doing it for attention all there holidays and day trips were places we went to with the kids places we had good memories of

I never really reacted, except when I was told he was engaged I said thank goodness that means he will finally sign the divorce papers (he called me and screamed at me instead about interfering in HIS LIFE) I told our friends I wasn't interested in his engagement etc so they stopped telling me he would show up in a new car to get the kids and say oh didn't your mum tell you I had a new car I thought one of her friends would have told her by now ds is autistic and won't lie he said mum isn't interested 😂

Facebook isn't really fake but it is a tool used by tools

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