divorce and finances

[jojomay1969]

hi
so recently divorced (no kids involved) husband moved out its my property. i now have a lodger as i cant afford to stay on my own. going to mediation to claim either spouse maintenance or his pensions does any one know what i should expect...married for 5 years

many thanks
jo

[tescocreditcard]

I'd expect a 50/50 split.

[tescocreditcard]

And no spousal support.

[nauseatedsidney]

Hmm, if it's your property how did you pay for it before you met him? I'd have thought if you have no kids and you've kept your property it's not his problem if you can't afford to stay and you should keep the lodger of move somewhere cheaper. Is there a reason you expect maintenance? Did you sacrifice your career to care for him or something?

[SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth]

If it is your property and he has no lien on it then you must have been able to afford it before he started paying into household finances?

And I doubt you'd get anything. Short marriage, no kids. You should just both be put back in the same position you were before. 50:50 split on any joint savings

[Viewfrommyhouse]

@jojomay1969

hi
so recently divorced (no kids involved) husband moved out its my property. i now have a lodger as i cant afford to stay on my own. going to mediation to claim either spouse maintenance or his pensions does any one know what i should expect...married for 5 years

many thanks
jo

It was a short marriage but it was also the marital home, so he may try and claim some of it.. unless he's a high earner, your chances of any spousal are slim to none. Do you work? How did you afford the house before you got married?

[lunar1]

Short marriage with no children and the house is in your name only. You aren't going to get any kind of maintenance.

I'd expect a 50/50 split depending on what you both came in with.

[DisgustingBrother]

Spousal support is being phased out in the UK. Unless he earns over 150k a year there's no chance.

Unlikely you'll receive a pension share for such a short marriage.

Why was the house not included as a marital asset?

[rwalker]

I think your in for a shock
at best 50% of asset accrued in marriage and basically leave with what u arrive with

[ProfessorXtra]

No one can even give an inkling of an answer?

How much does he earn, how much do you earn? How old are you both.

How long did you live together before getting married.

Is your house legally protected? Just being in your name isn’t enough.

Spousal maintenance is rare. And if his pension is on the table as a joint asset, your house might be too.

[Livinghappy]

Why would you expect a pension share or spousal support? Genuine question.

If the house is too big or expensive because it was bought with 2 people then the solution will be to sell and buy something more affordable.

[ProfessorXtra]

Sorry that first sentence wasn’t meant to be a question. I meant that there’s so much information missing no can give decent advice or even a semi accurate answer

[jojomay1969]

he has a house in Cyprus he bought before me and my house i purchased before him. he earns double what i earn and i have been told after a divorce you need to sort finances

[RandomMess]

Unless you co-habited for years before marriage it will be considered a short marriage.

Of course their could be extenuating circumstances such as you had to give up work to follow his career which may be taken into consideration.

12 months spousal whilst the house is sold could be possible if he is a very high earner or that he pays the mortgage (being that it is still his debt and asset currently anyway)

So many variables and missing info you need to speak to a solicitor.

[ArcticSkewer]

I wouldn't expect much at all, if anything. Just a line drawn under things so if either of you gets a large windfall in future the other partner can't claim on it

[ProfessorXtra]

@jojomay1969

he has a house in Cyprus he bought before me and my house i purchased before him. he earns double what i earn and i have been told after a divorce you need to sort finances

That doesn't answer any questions. You could be on 20k and him 40. Or you 75k and him 150k.

You do need to sort the financial. But based on what you have said, so far, you won't get anything neat what you are expecting.

[taxpayer1]

5 years, no kids. I Nothing. Why would you be entitled to anything for such a short period of time?

[Laura23FE]

Why do women think they are entitled to money off a man when they are getting a divorce and they have no kids ? Don’t get it.

[taxpayer1]

@Laura23FE

Why do women think they are entitled to money off a man when they are getting a divorce and they have no kids ? Don’t get it.

Apparently, because he earns more he should subsidize her for life for a 5 years mistake.

[jojomay1969]

thanks all lfor your kind words great help

[Waitingforsummer75]

@jojomay1969

thanks all lfor your kind words great help

If you answered some of the relevant questions you'd probably get a bit more help.

[ComtesseDeSpair]

@jojomay1969

thanks all lfor your kind words great help

Spousal maintenance is intended to reflect the sacrifices made by the lower- or non-earning partner for the marriage which have impacted their ability to earn - so giving up a career to raise children or to become a trailing spouse to move overseas for partner’s career etc. After a short marriage where you did neither of these, there’s no justification for it to be awarded to you and it’s very unlikely any solicitor would encourage you to waste legal fees trying to chase it.

You may have a claim on his pension (as he may yours) although again, after a short marriage you need to be realistic about what an award would look like. Unless there’s massive disproportion in each of your pension provisions and as you each own a home each, then unless you have money to burn on solicitors, an agreement close to each of you leaving with what you brought into the marriage would be optimal.

[jojomay1969]

thanks for sound advice