"I like a man who puts me in my place"

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Catching up on love island and found it quite disturbing this group of young women talking and agreeing with each other about loving men who 'put them in their place'

It makes me feel a bit icky? It's not a man's job to put me anywhere. I'm not lower than them for them to put me in my place. It all comes across a bit toxic and like men should dominate over us. Is this a bit of a red flag that girls/young women think this is sexy? Or am I becoming a bit too much of a preachy feminist 😂

And 'keeps me on my toes' which seems to mean treat me like I don't matter so I feel accomplished when you are nice to me.

There have always been foolish women that like "bad boys". Often they're suprised when he starts cheating and/or beating them up.

Uuurgh, horrible to hear. I hope they don’t have to learn the hard way.

Yep, that's a bit depressing and grim. My "place" is anywhere or how I damn well want to be and no one needs to put me in it. It's regressive stereotyping and it is depressing as hell that these women seem happy to repeat it. Objecting to it doesn't make you preachy, nor should being a feminist be used like an insult.

It just means they don’t want to be with someone who’s a push over, also we all need to have people in our lives that don’t just automatically agree with us because how would you ever grow.

You’re reading far too much into it.

I doubt they actually like it. They just think it sounds sexy to say it on TV and create the illusion of a male dream of the subservient goddess (boak).

As above, you're reading too far into it. I'm a man, and I like assertive women - that sounds like all they're saying too.
No one likes a pushover wet-wipe of any gender.

"Putting someone in their place" isn't the same as not being a pushover.

This! It's just a 'pick-me' line - depressing as fuck though.

But do you really want a woman who will “put you in your place”? Where is your place? Doesn’t “put you in your place” mean “remind you you are not as special or important as you think you are?” That sounds horrible to me, and the opposite of what I want in a partner.

Totally agree that it's a 'pick me' catchphrase, tying in with what they think makes them most attractive to men. Which is pretty much the whole proviso of Love Island.

As an aside, I find the term "preachy feminist" just as unpleasant.

I agree, to a point. That's what they ultimately mean, is someone who challenges them in a healthy way.

Problem is, they're looking for that challenge in an unheathly direction, they haven't yet figured out what a healthy relationship is.