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How can I get rid of the broody feeling?!?!?!

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Sjxo92 · 21/06/2023 11:07

My goodness .. the last month all I have thought about is having another baby!!. I've got two children. 11 and 6. I said after my last child that I'm not having anymore. Both pregnancies I had severe hyperemesis for 16 weeks straight. I had kidney stones with my first and with my second I ended up on crutches with SPD and was being closely monitored as I became tachycardic. The doctors I saw said the worst case scenario of tachycardia is a heart attack.. which pretty much set my decision with no more children. My children are lovely. Well behaved and well mannered. How on earth do I get the feeling to go away lol. My partner is 20 years older than me ( he's 50) and I'm aware that having children when older can cause pregnancy problems and even birth defects. We both said from the start of our relationship three years ago that we won't have a child. I have two and hes got three older children. I know it wouldn't be the best for my health and our lives really as my children are so easy now they are older. I've just started a new full time job, I've downsized my car, and we are still stuck in the same small rented two bed house we've been in the last ten years. ( Rent in the UK down south is ridiculously high and it seems impossible to get on the property ladder on my own ). We don't live together so only see each other three times a week. So even that id probably feel like a single parent anyways. I 100% know that a baby wouldn't be the best thing for us. It's just getting the broodyness to go!!. I'm having dreams of positive tests, I seem to be eyeing up the baby clothes when I'm food shopping. I've no idea what's going on in my head lol. Has anybody found something that stops the feeling because it seems to be taking over my mind right now. Send help xx

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Lottapianos · 21/06/2023 11:13

Yep, it's pretty overwhelming when it hits. It's your body screaming at you to have another baby, but you know there are very good reasons why you won't. It's hormonal, it will come and go

It might help to write a list of all the risks and all the negative stuff about having another baby, and read it through, and add to it regularly

Raindropsarefallingheavily · 21/06/2023 11:15

Do some research on the cost involved! Formula, nappies + prams... Then buy a bottle of your favourite tipple and thank the good lord you are well past that!
Alternatively set your phone alarm hourly for 2 nights straight... Then be more thankful...

Sjxo92 · 21/06/2023 11:20

Oh goodness yes. The every two hours wake up call!!!. Both my children didn't sleep through the night until they were past 2 years old!!!. I know I'm past all that. I know my body would struggle to do it again. It's getting that feeling to go and stop being constantly on my mind.

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Lottapianos · 21/06/2023 11:38

'Do some research on the cost involved'

Very good point. I read years ago that if you want to put yourself off having children, set an alarm to go off every 2 hours through the night. Every time it goes off, get up and set fire to fifty quid 😁

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