How can I make 13 year old DD feel less shit?

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My poor DD. She’s just found out that the friendship group she’s in have been meeting up without her. She’s devastated. Has anyone got any advice as to how I can help her? Everything I am saying is just pissing her off

If you have tried to console her and it is inflaming situation, can you try distraction? Put on a movie she might like and watch together? Cinema trip? Sometimes just be present without talking too much can help when things are painful,

I always go with the "it's not you, it's them" theory. It hurts and it's shit but you don't want to be friends with fake people and if they don't like you, that's ok. There will be plenty of people who will and do.

But then subtly check it's not "you".

Kids are so harsh and I'm so sorry she is going through this.

Does she know why or how often they are meeting without her?

I think it’s really common to want to “fix” things for those we love but actually she just wants to be heard and acknowledged. Tell her how shit it is, be a safe place for her to share her feelings without trying to resolve or offer answers. Sometimes shit things happen and we want to acknowledge that they’re shit and we don’t need to fix things or be placated with “things will be alright”.
Then agree with PP distraction for giving her option to take mind off it - plan to go cinema together on Saturday, go and get a manicure together, whatever you’d normally do together or something she would enjoy.
Also it is really shit and your poor DD and poor you having to see her suffer xxx