TTC at 38yrs old and after recent mc….will it happen?

[Twocatstwodogs]

Does anyone have any experience of trying to conceive around 38 years old like me? I had a 6w miscarriage and then needed a D&C 3 1/2 weeks ago, I feel physically fine and I want to try again so much but I’m also terrified of it not happening or another mc, I don’t think I could cope. I’ve been tracking my cycle, bbt, Lh, the works and I probably ovulated in the last couple of days. I’ve followed all the rules and DH is totally on board luckily, timed sex well in the 5 days lead up. I need to wait until about the 28th June to test but now it’s messing with my head.
I just have so many conflicting emotions about it, I already have two gorgeous sons and both were conceived quite easily, I was 36 and 37yrs old when I conceived (they’re 18m apart). I feel like I’ve left it too late to start my family and maybe the miscarriage was a sign, but my heart and my body is aching for a third child.
Any words of wisdom?

Hi @Twocatstwodogs
No words of wisdom from me but just some support.
I’ll be 38 in a few months and in the process of trying for our third. We decided to try at the end of last year and since then I’ve had a chemical and mmc. I share your frustration as my first two very conceived super easily and I don’t know how it has all gone so wrong since then. I had mine at 33 and 35.
We waited until I had my period after my mmc before trying and now in cycle #2.

I am with you on the conflicting emotions as I sometimes wonder myself if I am setting myself up for disappointment but I would say that at least I will know that I gave it my best shot, even if it doesn’t work out.

Sending you virtual hugs, it’s such an emotional rollercoaster!!

Hi @xxcxdonxx thanks so much for your support, right back at you! Great to know we are going through the same thing at the same time. It’s such an emotional rollercoaster isn’t it?

So many mixed feelings and with more pressure of feeling older and older each year I think.

Sending virtual hugs to you too and good luck. I’m trying to remain positive as I know I can get pregnant, so while it’s frustrating, I guess that’s also reassuring as well in a way.

Baby dust to you

Im 36.5 .. & have started folic acid & ideally my partner and i want to try for a child in a few months ...

I share age related nerves

After 3.5 years of fertility issues, when my problem was finally sorted, I conceived pretty easily. Gave birth at 34 and 35 (nearly 36). When we tried again at 38, I had two miscarriages, the second being a missed miscarriage.

Like you I was concerned that we might have left it too late. I spoke to my obstetrician and he said he would put me on baby asprin and progesterone when/if I got pregnant again. Our youngest was born six months after my 40th birthday.

It's soul-destroying, I know. Keep going though! You can be more fertile following a D&C as well, so that could work in your favour. Hope it all works out for you x

@worldwidetravel2017 You have time, I know exactly how you're feeling but try not to panic, I only started trying at the same age as you and found it quite straightforward. Really hope it's not too long for you x

@mayorofcasterbridge that's great to hear, so your third did happen in the end and the aspirin helped it sounds like? There's hope

Everyone is different, but I had a mmc at 37 (with d&c) at 11 weeks. I was pregnant a month later and he's 5 now. It was the most straightforward pregnancy and birth. Sometimes these things happen so I wouldn't assume you'll have any issues if you are otherwise healthy and well.

No, it's not too late. The chances of miscarriage and/or complications are higher but still totally doable.

@mindutopia Thank you, really helpful and definitely gives me hope. Very lucky that DH is super supportive and keen but it's not the same for the partner who's not tracking even if they try really hard I think x

@Whataretheodds thank you, it's terrifying googling it so trying to avoid that at all costs as the internet essentially seems to be all about it being doom and gloom after 35yrs. Hopefully not, I have had two successful pregnancies so maybe it will happen again x

I had a mmc at 38 and a DC at 39, it is doable. DC is now 17.

My dd had 2 early misses shortly before the 3rd successful pregnancy - born when she was 38. She had 2 more healthy babies at 39 and 42.

Thank you, definitely gives me hope

I guess I will never know whether it was the asprin/progesterone or not - but the 'outcome' is 20!! Good luck x

@mayorofcasterbridge so pleased you had a wonderful outcome, there's hope