who's in the wrong? what would you have done?

[blueicelollies]

Hi!

I'm not in this scenario, but who do you think is in the wrong, and what would you have done in this situation?

Person A wants to visit a few family members for a month, including person B.
Person B and their family live in a muslim country and are conservative muslims. Person A is muslim too but lives in a Western country and isn't as conservative.

Person A travels to person B and their family.

Person A wears shorts and more revealing clothes than what the average person wears in the muslim country. Person B tells them they are uncomfortable with them wearing shorts and more so because there are some workers working in their house.

Person B refuses to get changed and says that they wouldn't allow anyone to ruin their holidays.

Person A and B get into fights daily, involving the other family members and making them have to be a mediator in the fight.

Thank you

Person A should respect Bs wishes when she is in their home. And I think you mixed your letters up in paragraph 5.

As a guest you should respect the conventions of the host unless they are harmful.
Person A is being a bad guest in making their host unhappy and it would cost them nothing in terms of discomfort/dignity to adjust their clothing style for the visit... They should have anticipated this and packed accordingly.

Thank you for your reply. And yes you are right, apologies, it should say "person A refuses to get changed"

This

It depends who A and B are to each other and whose house it is.

If it's B's house and A is staying there then A is incredible rude.

If it's not B's house eg it's A's parents, who don't mind the shorts, but B is a sibling asserting dominance over A, then B is being rude and needs to wind their neck in.

Thank you for your reply.
It's B's house

I think person A should respect the general sort of level of modesty in some areas in public in the country - e.g not wear crop tops and thong shorts to go to a mall! But I also think they should, with family (in a family home) be able to dress more how they would normally.

There's a difference between dressing for cultural reasons when you're out and about and being forced to cover up in a family members home imo.

Person A is rood

Person A should show respect when in person Bs home/country. I’m not Muslim at all but would still cover up if I was invited to visit a family like this.

Person A is rude, disrespectful and obnoxious.

This isn't even a debate. Person A needs to cover

Yup. You go to a conservative country, it’s expected you adhere to some of their rules and the main one of covering up to show respect is one of them.

Person A needs to stop acting so entitled

Yep, person A needs to respect that person B is a conservative Muslim. Just not on to flaunt flesh in these circumstances

When in Rome...

Person A totally in the wrong.

1. She is a guest
2. She is a guest in the home of a conservatively dressed Muslim person
3. She is a guest in the house where workers are present

Person A is wrong and should respect cultures/values of others.

Person A is in the wrong.

In which case is needs to either follow their rules or stay somewhere else.

‘Ruin their holiday’
How ridiculous.
I presume A is not being asked to go full burka?

A would have been fully aware of expectations in B’s house before arriving. Their choice to go there.

Yes they were. They were told beforehand just in case

If I were invited to a Muslim friend or colleague's house I would dress conservatively. I wouldn't demand alcohol or anything either because I'm respectful. If they visited me I'd do the same. Anything else is just rude.