How did you survive temporary accommodation?

[Wanderer19]

Hello,
I am soon to be homeless with my one year old as my relationship broke down and partner gave me until August to leave. I spoke to the council and have a housing assessment at the start of July. I’m in central london southwark to be precise. I am not working. Anyone know where they are likely to house me at the end of august ? B&b or straight into a flat??

any tales of hope from mum’s that went through temporary accommodation?♥️

I was homeless from hospital with a newborn many years ago. Spent 10 months in a mother and baby home which was ok... and got a HA flat.

Bedroom, shared kitchen and bathroom (I was fortunate to share with a lovely girl of 16). And a communal living room which I never used because most of the other women in there were there because of drugs, alcohol and LA mandated parenting assessments.

I think it's probably easier with a very young child. We went out for lots of walks and I was very optimistic about a brighter future. Which we got.

Im just telling her my experience, which I am still in the process of now.

If you are willing to move anywhere then you stand the best chance of getting better housing. I would try looking strategically at places where council lists are shorter and if you are working your rent would be lower so when they talk through your options you can make sure it will suit you.

Just to let you know I was in a similar position the only way I got my 2 bedroom house was if i moved out of London that's what the council told me aswel and they were the one that allocated me the 2 bedroom house

@Newbeginnings90 yes that’s exactly how I’m feeling that somehow it’s all my fault and I’m a rubbish parent for it. But my son is only 1.5 even if I have to wait 5 years atleast by the time he’s in school he’ll have a settled home rather than being moved from pillar to post.

@IfUnicornsWereReal thank you for ur wealth of information ♥️ Really appreciate it

@GreyCarpet wow your strength is admirable 🌹 I’m glad you got ur happy ending out of it x

@Happyinmyowncompany where did they move you ?

@Wanderer19 Birmingham

Do you have to be in London?
completely different scenario but I have a housing association house in the northwest,during the pandemic my house needed some essential repairs so my housing association moved us out of our home for two weeks into temporary accommodation(they would normally have moved us into.a hotel but it was early into the pandemic when there was uncertainty about hotels ect staying ipen) they moved us inti.a fully equipped house with all essential furniture provided)beds ,wardrobes ,sofas ,fully equipped kitchen with a washer dryer
the housing association officer said the house would be continued to be used for emergency accommodation,f
The house was very comfortable so what ever family that needed emergency accommodation,would have been absolutely fine living there until something permanent was arranged

Yes I live in London central london to be exact. I’ll be happy if my temp accommodation is anything like what yours was !

My point was ,is do.you have to live in london?
Because you would be extremely unlikely to be offered anything like the temporary accommodation I was in ,in London
You ma have more choice in different areas of the UK .

Sorry my bad I misread ur comment. I’m probably most likely to be moved ‘further afield’ according to how they match you to properties - which means out of London 🥲 I only wish to stay somewhat closer to it so my son can see his father/grandparents on the weekends

Which is understandable but and I'm no expert London and the surrounding areas are incredibly over crowded and there's will be many families similar or worse off to you and if you want suitable accommodation you maybe waiting years
Sadly oh might have to look further afield .

That's exactly what the council said to me when I was living in London and pregnant at the time... The only way I got a 2 bedroom house was when I moved out of London..However it is very unlikely mean it will be a council house, most likely through an agency house (private)... You have to be in the borough for at least 3years to apply for a council house

He's just kicked you and your infant out onto the street.

He can bloody well travel.

Just an update as when I was fishing around for info I didn’t find anyone had written what finally happened to them.

had my telephone assessment- forgot how absolutely soul crushing the process is. The lack of sympathy and rudeness from housing officers, it’s shameful. Will be back with a further update when I have one myself until then HELLO ANXIETY AND PANIC ATTACKS

Hi lovely,

I'm sorry you're going through this. It is soul destroying and the not knowing where you're going to be is the worst bit. Once you're in somewhere, you can start to make it feel like home. Your little boy will thrive with you wherever you are living.

Wishing you all the best for this new season in life. Remember, one step at a time, and none of this is forever.

@Rovinonmars thank you so much xx

Unfortunately they don’t hav to give you own bathroom , friend was in hostel in erith had to share bathroom and kitchen area

Temporary accommodation can be anywhere not always in your area that you live.
The type of accomodation also varies
B&b, hotel, shared house, flat it all depends what is available at the time.

You keep answering old threads on this subject, the problems are (hopefully) sorted by now

Hi, I know this was posted 8 months ago but I am currently going through something similar and the anxiety is really bad, I have two children and from Monday I will basically be "homeless". Could you please tell me how are the conditions on temporary accommodation, the officer told me high possibility I will live with 20 other people that share the same bathroom and kitchen.
I have nowhere else to go and when she said that I broke down as I am actually scared to go, but either that or streets.
Can someone please tell me how bad can they be and if I decide to accept the offer to move outside London, will they give me a place or a temporary accommodation somewhere outside London.
Sorry for the long comment, I am literally in tears and just scared from what comes next. This life is so unpredictable, I have never imagined I would ever be in this position but here I am.
Thank you

I am so sorry you're going through this. So unbelievably stressful. My strongest advice would be to consider moving to different parts of the country. London is ridiculous you won't get a council place so you'll be forever renting and rents I'm so high it will be very difficult to work and cover the costs.
Would you consider moving outside of London? I promise you the north is wonderful! There are many nicer places in London and so much friendlier that you will meet new people.
As for the hostel you just need to grin and bear it for a little bit you're doing the best thing for your kids right now and if you can make it into a bit of a game for them it won't be as bad.
Children are very very adaptable. I wish you all of the best x

PMd you x

@Wanderer19

How are you OP? I hope you can see light at the end of the tunnel. Did you have to move from London? I hope you and your little one are somewhere safe.

Hello hun thank you for thinking of us. We’re still here in temporary accommodation but got used to it now. Even made it homely. Getting higher and higher on the bidding position so hope to be back in London 🥰🩵
the hardest part was leaving. And then starting over but very much needed it’s made me so strong and the thought of never finding myself in the position I was last year keeps me going !

@Wanderer19

So pleased you are housed, even though it's temporary. I had to move twice after breaking up with my former partner during lockdown, and I still feel homesick, but have come a long way practically and emotionally.
My DCs are adults and not dependant, but there have been so many breakups, during and after the pandemic, and I feel really concerned about all the children involved. Keep on keeping on, and best wishes for the future, please update when you're in your next home.