Friend booked joint trip without checking

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I don't want to fall out with my friend about this but need help expressing to her.

For some months we've been talking of a weekend away.

She's been quite difficult. Refusing to commit to a date. Then refusing to look at any of the suggestions for hotels I sent. Then asking if I coykdcswop weekends last minute (I couldn't...Will be away with a different friend).

She has now texted. She has booked somewhere. It's 50 miles away from where we agreed to stay and so a much longer and more expensive journey for me but nearer to her. And I hate the look of the hotel.

I will go but how would you communicate that this is a bit surprising and I thought we'd agree the hotel together....without her taking offence?

Don't go, sit down and discuss the trip and book somewhere together.

I wouldn’t go either. Tell her you didn’t agree to it and it’s out of budget.

Is it nonrefundable? If not, get her to change it. She's been out of order.

I find it really thoughtless and taking too much initiative that she didn't phone or text before booking then just sent a screengrab of the hotel booking.

I haven't replied so she may pick up that I'm not best pleased.

But she has been a good friend so I don't want to make a fuss.

I sense any attempt to move hotels won't go down well. She has paid upfront.

I sense any attempt to move hotels won't go down well. She has paid upfront.

That's her problem. She didn't consult with you, and you don't like her choice. She doesn't sound like a good friend.

Thanks for the support. Thought maybe everyone would think I was being fussy.

We had meant to be staying in a beauty spot but the hotel is a nice part of a rather grim town miles away!

She has seemed in the last 2 to 3 months more preoccupied, less forthcoming and quite busy.

I almost wonder if subconsciously she is trying to get me to back out of the trip.

She hasn't seemed hugely keen.

The hotel does have good reviews.

Her text says simply "hope this is OK with you". No mention of looking forward to it.

It's late now and I've got a very busy day tomorrow. I may mull it over, see if any of the nice hotels i found are still free and perhaps suggest we meet for a nice day out in the beauty spot area. Although I doubt the friendship would survive that. She'd insist on talking and I'd be grilled til I backed down.

Her text says simply "hope this is OK with you". No mention of looking forward to it.

Well, the way I'd answer it is "No, it's not. That is nothing like what we planned. Let's look at something together, or leave it for now until we can make the time to do that".