Need help please - rights to kick out non-married father of my kids

[roarfeckingroarr]

When I own the home.

My ex still sleeps on my sofa. Our kids are 2 and very tiny. I've put up with this out of kindness because

Check with CAB or a lawyer if affordable but I’m pretty sure you can just chuck him out

Sorry - because he will struggle to afford life and maintenance without me.

He's started being nasty - all verbal, nothing physical. I cannot cope with the gaslighting anymore and it's time for him to go.

As the flat owner, unmarried, can I make him leave?

Yes of course you can chuck him out. It might be worth while having someone around to give you moral support and perhaps a bit of muscle if he gets arsey.
He can't afford life- his problem.
He needs somewhere to live- his problem.
He can't afford maintenance- his problem.

You owe him nothing and need to get him out of your property ASAP. You are not responsible for him. Best of luck

He's being very OTT around our toddler and telling me he will take me to court (for what?). Apparently his family hate me. It's all classic BS. I don't know how to make him leave though because I done have anyone nearby.

You simply work out when he will not be home, arrange a locksmith and leave his belongings outside. He is an arse who needs to sort his own living arrangements.

If you are scared get someone to sit in with you for when he comes back so they can call the police if he tries to kick the door down.

Though the police may actually respond quicker if you are on your own with two small children.

You ask him to leave and give him a deadline. If he doesn’t go, you can call the police and they will get him out.

@Neverinamonthofsundays sorry to highlight you but your advice is good.

@Reugny it is fine. Sadly I have been here although prior to kids.

Court costs money. He’s not your problem.

I've put up with this out of kindness because he will struggle to afford life and maintenance without me.

Well, if he'd been a decent person, your kindness might have continued. As he hasn't, off he goes. His own fault and not yours.

Yes tell him to leave. Call the police if he wont.

Does he work? If so I would give him however many days to leave, then if he doesn't then change the locks whilst he's at work.

Legally he is an "excluded occupier" which means he has the right to nothing except reasonable notice. What is reasonable depends on the circumstances including his behaviour towards you. My suggestion is to give him a week's notice and confirm it in writing (might sound silly when you live with him, but send him an email so you have proof). ie give him notice to move out by Sunday 25 June. Get a locksmith lined up to change the locks on Monday 26 June.

He may turn nasty so be very careful.

Where he goes and how he supports himself is not your problem.

He is being abusive and threatening. Call the police, tell them you are feeling threatened and you need their help to make him leave. Do it now and immediately change the locks.

You guys are brilliant, thank you very much.

@roarfeckingroarr
OP, please Google Rosie Duffield, she suffered domestic abuse from a former live in partner in 2017, and she took her keys back from his bunch of keys while he was in the shower, and he had to pick his belongings from another property.
Your ex has bitten the hand that feeds him with his verbal abuse, enough is enough, get rid, and tell the police if you are fearful.