Returning part of a gift- rude or not?

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I'm part of a small hobby group. We all put in for someones birthday, getting a gift pack from a brand she loves. A week later, the recipient bought part of the gift back to the club, and ask who wanted it- as its not her thing and she can't possibly use it.

Why didn't she just regift it to a family member or someone outside the group? Was it rude of just me who thinks so?

Very rude and I wouldn't be going to that trouble again for them.

Nice of her to offer it first to the people who bought it for her. Far better than it sitting in a cupboard unused.

If she has other family /friends outside the club why couldn't she of asked them if she didn't then I could understand

I would find that very rude tbh

She probably assumed someone would like it as they chose it for her! Depends what the item is. I'm always giving away body lotion as I don't have time for it

Depends on how it was phrased. “Thank you so much dear friends for my beauty gift set. Unfortunately eyelash glue always brings me out in a rash so I can’t use the false eyelashes within the set- could anyone else in the group make use of them?” Would be fine. But I’m assuming from your message they were rather less polite about it?

Unfortunately, the comments were not so polite and more like 'well clearly I can't use this, does anyone want it?' The group offered to exchange, refund or provide something different, which were all refused. 2 people said they'd love it- then ensued a 5mins back and forth- no you have it, no you! Its made an atmosphere and some have said they won't do gifts in future.

The recipient have a very large, extended family and attends other groups- so had others she could have given it to.

'well clearly I can't use this

was it something she clearly couldn't use and might be offended by being given it or the lack of thought if it was clear? <nosey!>

if she is generally brusk I would assume she didn't mean for it to come across as ungrateful, more she can't use and since you guys bought would someone like it?

None of the group were aware beforehand that she 'clearly couldn't use it' no.

Think along the lines of:

' Well that colour obviously clashes with my purple, floral wall paper!'
or
'Well I clearly can't use that, because it reminds me of dead Aunt Mildreds perfume'

Seems rude id never return a gift even if wrong brand size colour etc. Id rather regift it to someone outside that group or family relations or take to a charity shop

Same here tbh.. I know my feelings will be hurt if someone returned a gift I got them back to me