If your S.O. went to prison ...

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If your SO/DH was sent to prison for 15 years (innocent of course, but framed), would you wait or would you move on? (Was watching something on telly and curious what others would do ....)

Genuinely framed or 'I am so in love I will beleive anything' framed?

If he was genuinely framed, then yes.

Even if he was guilty, as long as it was a financial crime (ie not a sexual, or violent one), I'd hold tight.

Shawshank Redemption. You're going to fit right in. Everybody in here's innocent.

Of course anyone would wait if someone was immodest. Chances are they aren't though.

Innocent not immodest.

I think we have to say we assume he has been framed and we want to believe he's innocent, but of course we can't be 100% sure

And its a murder (but lets say self defense, assuming of course he was there)

If DH was entirely innocent and went down for 15 years I would 100% wait. Any ex or SO previously, nope.

I suppose that's love.

Aw lucky DH! That's lovely 😀

I'd stand by him for that.

Well, this is where I study day and night, on top of my full time job, to become a criminal defence barrister, learn every detail of his case, and miraculously get him off the hook 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wouldn’t promise anything. I have a relative who was in prison for a much shorter period, but who was innocent and has been cleared. A stretch in prison changes people. 15 years changes people.

Things change. People change. I don’t see how anyone can promise they absolutely will stand by anyone. You have no idea what being in prison or on the outside will bring. You could find yourself 5 years in and completely incompatible anymore.

I think I would, unless it was violent/sexual etc. And supper dd to maintain contact if she wanted to

But more in the sense of honouring my vows and staying loyal fully understanding we may both change during that time.

I think I would really struggle with this. It would obviously really depend on whether I genuinely and reasonably believed he was innocent. If he had actually committed a crime he wouldn't be the man I think he is so it would give me significant pause and I think the relationship would falter.

Realistically a couple of years, maybe 5 yes. But 15 years??? That is a long time even with the best will in the world & love I think most people would struggle to keep a relationship going when one person is living their life and the other is locked up.

Depends who he's killed (or supposedly not killed...).

Well I work in a men's prison. I'd say do not wait around

The person who is released through that gate won't be the one who went in!